The "Friend Zone"

[Godless]

So I've been friends with this girl I like since high school. I didn't make a move on her in high school because I liked another girl (who completely stopped talking to me after graduation) and she had a boyfriend at the time. Now she's been single for over a year now and I find that I'm actually into her. Except the problem is that I'm pretty much in the "friend zone" with her since she seems to talk to me like any other friend and will occasionally ask me for advice. I actually went to a party with her, her cousin, and one of her friends and I really wanted to grind on her, but I wasn't sure if it would've made her feel awkward since we're just friends. We're both sophomores at two different universities, but I'm not really sure what to do at this point. I could really use some advice from you guys

[Whitney]

The only way out of the friend zone is to ask her out...but do so knowing that if you go out and later break up that the friendship probably won't survive.  The worst she can do is say no and you might even be able to pretend you were joking depending on how the conversation progressed.

[Dretlin]

Youtube user "lacigreen" made a not bad video on this very subject this week.

Maybe helpful, maybe not. Either way, I wish you luck!

[Godless]

The only way out of the friend zone is to ask her out...but do so knowing that if you go out and later break up that the friendship probably won't survive.  The worst she can do is say no and you might even be able to pretend you were joking depending on how the conversation progressed.

Yeah, but that's the thing, if it doesn't work out I'd at least want to remain friends with her...

[PoopShoot]

Well, you could always delegate her to the rape zone, but the relationship gets complicated afterward if you do.

[TheWilliam]

The only way out of the friend zone is to ask her out...but do so knowing that if you go out and later break up that the friendship probably won't survive.  The worst she can do is say no and you might even be able to pretend you were joking depending on how the conversation progressed.

Yeah, but that's the thing, if it doesn't work out I'd at least want to remain friends with her...

aaahhhhh, just go for it.

at your age, you have too much life to live to worry about making the friendship awkward or whatever.

and if you do date a little and it ends and the friendship is over, by then you'll have living more life and making more friends anyway.

most likely you'll outgrow each other in the long run, so why not try

[epepke]

Very difficult to get out of the friend zone.  The only way I know how to do it is to separate for a while and then, on the subsequent meeting, flirt outrageously.  Maybe take her in your arms and kiss her.  This works surprisingly well.

[curiosityandthecat]

I've always found copious amounts of alcohol really help you get over that friend-zone fence. It usually goes something like this:

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[Whitney]

The only way out of the friend zone is to ask her out...but do so knowing that if you go out and later break up that the friendship probably won't survive.  The worst she can do is say no and you might even be able to pretend you were joking depending on how the conversation progressed.

Yeah, but that's the thing, if it doesn't work out I'd at least want to remain friends with her...

It's very rare for anyone to date seriously and then go back to friendship mode.  So, you just need to consider that a risk of pursuing more than friendship...I say go for it if you think you have a chance.

Not that it can't be done...it's just rare and requires that both sides agreed it was a mistake to date in the first place but still enjoy each other non-romantically.

You could go for friends with benefits...but sounds like that's probably not your kind of thing.

Keep in mind that the only real way a straight male and female can be friends without it naturally becoming romantic is if they are either both too shy to make a move or one of two doesn't find the other attractive romantically....I still say go for it it's worth the risk if you think she's a good match for you.

[Godless]

Do you guys think it would be worth it to try to ask her out now? We go to different schools and I won't be able to see her unless we're on break.

[karadan]

The only way out of the friend zone is to ask her out...but do so knowing that if you go out and later break up that the friendship probably won't survive.  The worst she can do is say no and you might even be able to pretend you were joking depending on how the conversation progressed.

Yeah, but that's the thing, if it doesn't work out I'd at least want to remain friends with her...

That's untenable unfortunately, unless she's made of really strong stuff. Take it from me, nipping it in the bud now is far FAR better than 10 years of wistful longing and ultimately, a very broken heart...

I've been there mate. Not pleasant. Ask her asap or prepare yourself for a very sad existence.

[Whitney]

Do you guys think it would be worth it to try to ask her out now? We go to different schools and I won't be able to see her unless we're on break.

If you can maintain a long distance friendship I'm not sure how a long distance dating relationship would be much different (except that you get romance when you see each other instead of just talk) unless either of you has jealousy issues and would be likely to think the other is cheating (but that's for later, just dating doesn't require a monogamous commitment).

[humblesmurph]

So I've been friends with this girl I like since high school. I didn't make a move on her in high school because I liked another girl (who completely stopped talking to me after graduation) and she had a boyfriend at the time. Now she's been single for over a year now and I find that I'm actually into her. Except the problem is that I'm pretty much in the "friend zone" with her since she seems to talk to me like any other friend and will occasionally ask me for advice. I actually went to a party with her, her cousin, and one of her friends and I really wanted to grind on her, but I wasn't sure if it would've made her feel awkward since we're just friends. We're both sophomores at two different universities, but I'm not really sure what to do at this point. I could really use some advice from you guys :bananacolor:

Jump in the game and score a touchdown, you only get to play the game once.

[tymygy]

WAIT TILL BREAK!

Don't be desperate. Make sure you build a good relationship with her during break so when school comes around she won't be tempted.

Don't just ask her out, talk to her, get some good conversations in there, THEN (DURING BREAK) ask her out.

[SSY]

Well, you could always delegate her to the rape zone, but the relationship gets complicated afterward if you do.

lol  roflol

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