Teen Here Requiring Girl/Prom Advice

Godless · May 18, 2009, 11:12:08 PM

Alright so I'm a shy guy but I met a girl named Sydney last year and I've pretty much had a crush on her ever since I first met her. However, I could never grow a pair of balls to tell her I like her or to ask her out. Now that it's my senior year and prom is coming up, I feel that this is my only chance and I want to ask her out to the prom, but I don't know if she would be interested in me at all. I happen to know her best friend, Megan, since we kind of talk a lot each day and I'll probably try to get some input from her. I could use some advice from anyone on how to approach her and tell if she has any interest in me at all. Tickets for the prom at my school sell from May 26th to May 28th and the prom itself is on June 5th. The best time to talk to Sydney would probably be next Wednesday at a Science Honor Society Meeting. Also on May 29th, I am headed off to Busch Gardens with other people from the Science Honor Society and I'll get to hang out with Megan and Sydney.

Will · May 18, 2009, 11:27:48 PM

Fortune favors the bold, Godless. I've been there, I know how difficult it can be to gather the fortitude and talk to a serious crush, but it's so worth it. Be assertive, confident, but still Godless. Maybe you don't have to just walk up and ask her to the prom, but there's nothing stopping you from asking her to lunch or to go see a movie (or whatever the kids do these days). Give her the chance to get to know you.

Graham · May 19, 2009, 12:37:49 AM

I don't really have any tips for you, other than just do what you feel you should do, don't be forceful, be yourself. Just be that person that she wants to be around by making her laugh and smile. You'll regret not trying.

SSY · May 19, 2009, 01:27:39 AM

I would chicken out at the last minute, not ask her, then spend the rest of my life in a downward spiral of lonelyness and regret, forever hoping a chance to redeem myself will present itself, all the while knowing, that even if it did, I would fail again.

Or you could ask her out. School ends soon, so even if she says no, then its not exactly a problem.

Wendy · May 19, 2009, 01:37:10 AM

As a former teenage girl, I am going to say ASK HER! Girls can be so intimidating and we don't mean to be. (Most of the time) Not that I was such hot stuff in high school, but a guy friend told me a couple years ago that he always wanted to ask me out in high school and was too nervous. I would have totally gone out with him. And if you are already friends with the same group of people, you at least have others to hang out with during prom to make it a little less awkward.

Oh and...let us know how it goes.

Whitney · May 19, 2009, 04:02:37 AM

If you have the type of personality that can get along with her best friend then I would assume you are probably a good match for the girl you like. Ask as soon as you find an appropriate time otherwise she might fear being dateless for the senior prom and settle for someone not as great as you are.

Godless · May 19, 2009, 12:11:49 PM

I'm going to talk to Megan first and tell her that I like Sydney to see her reaction and ask her questions on how I should approach her. But before that, I'm going to ask if Sydney is actually going to prom with another guy (I hope not).

Last year in my junior year, Sydney was in three of my classes, but none this year so I barely get to see her and talk to her now. The only time I ever see her is occasionally in the hall or at Science Honor Society meetings.

curiosityandthecat · May 19, 2009, 02:19:10 PM

Quote from: "Godless"I'm going to talk to Megan first and tell her that I like Sydney to see her reaction and ask her questions on how I should approach her. But before that, I'm going to ask if Sydney is actually going to prom with another guy (I hope not).

Last year in my junior year, Sydney was in three of my classes, but none this year so I barely get to see her and talk to her now. The only time I ever see her is occasionally in the hall or at Science Honor Society meetings.

Science Honor Society? Geek girls, ftw. Hope it goes well.

karadan · May 19, 2009, 03:29:10 PM

I hope your friend Megan doesn't secretly have the hots for you and is herself wishing you'd ask her to the prom. That would open a whole can of worms.

BadPoison · May 19, 2009, 04:04:42 PM

Quote from: "curiosityandthecat"Science Honor Society? Geek girls, ftw. Hope it goes well.

I caught that too! The happiest relationships I've ever been in were with "geeks." But that probably says more about my personality than anything else.

I think you should leave Megan out of it, just because of the same reasons Karadan mentioned. Just go up to the girl you like and just straight ask her if she would like to go to the prom with you. Keep it short and sweet, when she says yes just say "Thats cool. Looking forward to it" and then walk away. Try not to show her how amazingly happy you are that she says yes. This way, she gets the mystery of what you're really thinking. Girls love mystery.

My 2cents

jrosebud · May 19, 2009, 06:19:19 PM

Quote from: "BadPoison"
Quote from: "curiosityandthecat"Science Honor Society? Geek girls, ftw. Hope it goes well.

I love a cute geeky guy who gets flustered while asking a girl out. Those who play it cool leave me feeling, well, cold. Just be yourself.

BadPoison · May 19, 2009, 06:39:40 PM

Quote from: "jrosebud"
Quote from: "BadPoison"
Quote from: "curiosityandthecat"Science Honor Society? Geek girls, ftw. Hope it goes well.

I love a cute geeky guy who gets flustered while asking a girl out. Those who play it cool leave me feeling, well, cold. Just be yourself.
Well there you have it!

Whitney · May 19, 2009, 08:28:56 PM

Quote from: "Godless"I'm going to talk to Megan first and tell her that I like Sydney to see her reaction and ask her questions on how I should approach her. But before that, I'm going to ask if Sydney is actually going to prom with another guy (I hope not).

Last year in my junior year, Sydney was in three of my classes, but none this year so I barely get to see her and talk to her now. The only time I ever see her is occasionally in the hall or at Science Honor Society meetings.

Asking her friend about it first is about the same as passing a note that says "do you like me? check yes or no." After all, Megan will tell Sydney that you like her before you get a chance. (She'll probably tell even if she promises not to...the only difference is then she'll make Sydney swear to pretend like she doesn't know). Plus, as already mentioned, Megan may have a crush on you and you don't want to hurt her feelings by being so disinterested that you use her to find out about another girl.

Whitney · May 19, 2009, 08:36:24 PM

Quote from: "jrosebud"
Quote from: "BadPoison"
Quote from: "curiosityandthecat"Science Honor Society? Geek girls, ftw. Hope it goes well.

I love a cute geeky guy who gets flustered while asking a girl out. Those who play it cool leave me feeling, well, cold. Just be yourself.

I agree..when I was asked out by guys that seemed disinterested it made me equally as disinterested in them. It didn't ruin how the date would turn out, but it definitely made me more cautious about expressing my own emotions. If you are happy let it show...the whole idea of hiding emotions will probably only work on the shallow girls who want someone who is "cool." Playing it cool is also just a defense mechanism against being embarrassed if the girl says no....being yourself is much more daring That said...there is a line you can cross where you are too happy and it comes off as creepy...but I don't think any normal person would be able to cross the creepy line without trying (I have unfortunately dated a couple weirdos).

BadPoison · May 19, 2009, 08:48:14 PM

Well, I think anyone can inadvertently cross over the "creep" line. Or maybe I'm a creep for thinking it's easy? :eek:

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