class ring blues

[susangail]

I got my class ring last fall when I was still all holy and mighty for the Lord and what not, so naturally I put a Jesus symbol on it. Well...now I don't know what to do. The simplest answer is to just not wear it, easy enough. There are two things wrong with it though: 1.) my parents spent a lot of money on it and I feel guilty for not wearing it, 2.) I wear rings a lot (everyone who knows me knows I love rings) and my mom likes to look at them and stuff. I haven't been wearing any rings so it won't look funny that I'm not wearing the class ring.

I know is sounds like I'm analyzing this too much, but trust me, my mom will notice. It's just one of those things I don't want to get a "look" over. I already get that enough. My friend suggested I go to the place I ordered it from and get it taken off, but again, my mom would notice.

Not wearing it seems like my best bet. I stopped wearing my promise ring without much problem. (For those of you who don't know, a promise ring is a symbol of a promise to God that you will be a virgin until you are married and sometimes includes a promise to always be faithful to God. It's also called a purity ring.) I felt weird about not wearing it at first, but I got over it. I think this will work with the class ring if I can get over the guilt. I'm still working on that habit of feeling guilty about every little thing (I still mentally apologize sometimes without really noticing until later), but I know it doesn't happen over night.

I guess I won't really wear it after I graduate anyway (my sister doesn't now that's she's in college).

Well, any advice on the ring or the guilt would be much appreciated.
Thanks.

[Whitney]

Your mom doesn't attend your classes....just wear it on the way to school and on the way home then take it off and store it safely in your purse or locker during class.  Then you won't have to worry about hurting your mom's feelings but also won't have to really wear it.

If you are going to college, you won't wear it after graduation (Freshmen on college campuses don't tend to want to advertise that they are freshmen).

My high school ring, wherever it is now, has a FCA (fellowship of Christian athletes) symbol on it.

Honestly, those rings are a huge rip off...you pay a few hundred for one and then it takes forever to be made.  By the time you get it you are half way through your senior year and likely won't look at it again after graduation.

[SteveS]

Good points laetus.  Not to mention, if one is anything like me, once they graduate high-school they usually gain weight and the damn thing doesn't fit your finger anymore anyway!  I think I'm about 50 pounds heavier than I was in high school (the irony is that back then I was trying to gain weight and couldn't!).

[Will]

If you can get away with ditching the promise ring, I can't imagine a class ring being a big deal.

Test the waters. Don't wear it until someone says something.

[susangail]

I really tend to over-think things. Thanks everyone for bringing my brain back into my head.

[MommaSquid]

I got my class ring last fall when I was still all holy and mighty for the Lord and what not, so naturally I put a Jesus symbol on it. Well...now I don't know what to do. The simplest answer is to just not wear it, easy enough. There are two things wrong with it though: 1.) my parents spent a lot of money on it and I feel guilty for not wearing it, 2.) I wear rings a lot (everyone who knows me knows I love rings) and my mom likes to look at them and stuff. I haven't been wearing any rings so it won't look funny that I'm not wearing the class ring....

Well, any advice on the ring or the guilt would be much appreciated.
Thanks.

I’m glad you’re feeling better about the class ring issue.  Here’s some “better late than never” advice:

No one wears the darn things after high school ends, so you might as well enjoy the ring for what it is:  a symbol of who and where you were when you ordered it!   My class ring has a concert choir emblem on the side, and I haven't sung in a chorus since junior year (lo these many moons).  

You may want to consider wearing the ring a few times around your parents, maybe during special occasions or family gatherings.  It will make them happy and it might assuage your guilt.  After you start college you can put the ring in a nice jewelry box and forget about it.

[LSchune]

I'd take it to a jewler, or call a local high school and ask what company does their class rings.

I don't think you'd have any problem getting a new symbol designed, or whatnot.  Seems pretty simple.