Florida highschool puts a ban on "extreme hair/makeup."

[Whitney]

where does one draw the line of enough "individuality"?

I'm not a parent but I've thought about it...I would not allow a child to wear overly revealing clothing meaning skirts must cover the butt enough to pick up something without a chance of revealing anything, and cleavage should be minimal (requiring more coverage for non-teens than teenagers).  Aside from that I would let them wear whatever they wanted...but would of course give my opinion if they wanted to wear something that was obviously going to make them stand out in the wrong way.  If I had to bring them to a business event (like an awards dinner or something where family is encouraged to attend) I'd make them dress in an acceptable manner for the event or leave them at home (if old enough to stay home).

I think I'd encourage them to do whatever they wanted to their hair in a tasteful manner so they won't regret not having played around with style before they end up in a job that isn't fond of edgy styles.  And my idea of tastefully playing with hair styles is pretty broad as long as it isn't related to the office environment....the only hair style I just can't stand is a mohawk and i think that's because i think people only get them to draw attention.

I wouldn't allow any non-reversible piercings till they are 18...so not big gauge piercings everything else basically grows back.  I'd handle any nontraditional piercing requests on a case by case basis.

[AnimatedDirt]

Define overly revealing.  To one, a show of cleavage is revealing, to another it is enhancing natural beauty.  To one, Doc Martens and red or white shoe strings is cool and to another it is militant racism.  To one tight short-shorts are revealing to another they are a volleyball uniform.  To one smoking pot is illegal and frowned upon, to another smoking tobacco is legal and so not policed.  To one, mohawk means punk rock trouble-makers (I grew up in the 80's) to another, it's a fashion statement and a fun show of individuality.  To one a shaved head is because of challenged hair follicles, (yes, we had one such person in HS) and to another it is gang affiliation....so one and so on.  Tattoos...if the parent allows, anything goes?  Is it always up to the parent?  Not necessarily when the State is providing (through taxes of course) a service for the whole.  There seems to be good reason to make "silly" rules when certain individuals ruin the "fun" for the rest.  I'm not necessarily for these silly rules, but can see how they come about.

One reason my kids go/went to private schools.  One is still in and the other, well, it just got too expensive to justify the supposed "superior education".

[Munchkin Goddess]

....the only hair style I just can't stand is a mohawk and i think that's because i think people only get them to draw attention.

Personally, I think mohawks on the right person is hot! I once dated a guy because he had a mohawk, lol.

Define overly revealing. 

For myself, I am 4 feet 9 inches and with small hands. So if the skirt is about the size from my thumb to my pinky or less, it's waaay too short. Generally, I like it to be close to (if not at) the knee level. As for shirts, well it's clearly just one step from showing the chest area (for females) completely. Tight shorts are fine, as long as they aren't too small. Tattoos, I always recommend getting them in places that you can hide easily. For those under 18 years of age, no curses or nude bodies tattoo'ed on. It should be up to the parent because the government shouldn't be the one telling parents how to raise their children, if the children are not in danger.