Help dealing with a christian girl?

[Rock-O-]

First of all, this is my first post here on the forum, so hello everybody...

Ok, so first an explanation of how we met and our relationship. We met in speech class, but we knew of each other before then. I always thought she was really cute (with a NICE ass...).  As an atheist who has been through a hell of a lot in his life, I'm the kind of person who needs a girl who feels needed. She shared this love for me while we were together, but she kind of distanced herself after she realized that she could never change me. The fact that I am atheist and into "recreational drugs" scared her off. She is a devout christian from a Christian family,and she hopes to someday "be with a guy in heaven". She claims that because I do not believe in her christianity, we can never be together, because we couldn't be in heaven together. She still called me every time she felt like she needed someone to talk to or wanted a guy to fool around with, but she wouldn't allow herself to fall in love with me.

Anyways she recently found another dude, and this has left me feeling saddened/worthless. I no longer have anyone that depends on me like she used to. Going out on saturday night and fooling around with another girl didn't absolutely nothing to help the cause either. Anyways, my question that I ask of you fellow free thinkers is this: Is it possible to find a good, christian girl that is sane? How do christians allow their faith to conquer love? Shouldn't love for someone be enough? Thoughts on what I should do please.

As of right now I told her off pretty good, then kind of apologized later after she told me that I'm still her best friend or whatever, but I wouldn't be able to cope with being number 2 behind her boyfriend. Thoughts on what I should do???? I'm thinking just forget about her completely, and be done with broken people.

[Davin]

Anyways, my question that I ask of you fellow free thinkers is this: Is it possible to find a good, christian girl that is sane?

Yes, but why be so specific as to only look for Christian girls?

People get to make their own choices and if she doesn't choose you for whatever reason you should leave it at that.

[Rock-O-]

Well, the problem is that around here in central illinois, most girls are christian...

Where the hell are all the open-minded girls? I think i just need to get out of this town haha

My question I guess was is it possible for an atheist to have a working relationship with a girl that is christian, without it getting in the way.

[Davin]

My question I guess was is it possible for an atheist to have a working relationship with a girl that is christian, without it getting in the way.

It is possible, I had a girlfriend for a while that was Christian. As long as you show respect to her (not necessarily her beliefs, which is usually only difficult for some people to separate), you should be fine. The problem isn't always religion, most of the time it's just the person. Religion is a neutral tool that the religious use to find justification for them to do what they want to do and to prevent others from doing what they don't want them to do. So if a girl tells you that she can't be with you because she is a Christian and you're not then usually there is something else going on. Of course this is just a shooting from the hip, arm chair judgment from some one who grew up in a small town mostly populated by Christians.

No matter what, keep looking. Some atheists were once Christians.

[Beast]

How about this, my wife is a xtian, I am outward atheist. We have been together for about 6 years. We sorta developed an agree to disagree system. There are always tension now that we have 2 kids and she has one idea of raising them and I another. But to answer your question directly, yes it is possible  for an atheist to have a working relationship with a girl that is christian, without it getting in the way.

[Kylyssa]

It's possible to have a good relationship with a Christian but it's not as easy as it is to have one with an atheist or agnostic.  You'd probably be surprised by how many agnostic and atheist girls are in your area.  But liberal Christians will do in a pinch, too.

Try "friending" girls on Facebook and slowly check out what they post and see what their info says as far as religion.  I found out that a few people I knew irl for years were agnostics that way.  Some of the girls you think are Christian might just be blending in.

[Ellainix]

Sadly, part of living in a Christian dominant society is surviving our calculated tactical oppression. It's Evolution and Natural Selection in action.

[Sheeplauncher]

Sadly, part of living in a Christian dominant society is surviving our calculated tactical oppression. It's Evolution and Natural Selection in action.

I see it more like Devolution. And i don't Mean Risk Devolution for war3(although its fun, and i wasted countless hours playing it ). But yeah im from IL too but in Chicago where people are a bit more tolerant. I go to school in Iowa though, and its interesting because there are a lot of Christians but I've met TONS of heathens. If your in college i suggest going to your atheist organization is there is one.

[Ellainix]

Oh, I'm safe right now. But I have many friends deep in the South.

[hismikeness]

Possible... yes! Difficult... maybe.

Not just females, but most of the people I know, including two of my best friends in the world, are very devout religious types (Bible study church guy and the Mormonest dude of all time). I tend to believe that with any "taboo" subject, if you don't take yourself and your views too seriously and treat them as if they aren't taboo, then neither will they.

My wife believed when we first were married, but was never "religious". She has since become more or less a non believer, partially due to her sister sending her random bible quotes via text message trying to give her hope because we are having difficulty getting pregnant for the last two years. I want to tell her to FO, but the wife won't let me.

Anyway, nice ass or not, maybe your picker is a little bit bust. Perhaps she is just not the right one... keep fighting the good fight. Besides, it isn't necessarily the fact that she is religious, but also that she is a she. That's sometimes a double dose of crazy.

Hismikeness

[Rock-O-]

haha thanks for the comments guys. Well on a update on the topic I'm finally starting to be able to get over her, and accept the fact that there was nothing I could do. She is the kind of girl that treats it as if there was no way possible. She is THAT type of christian who doesn't see any way for us to be together despite the way we connected. Her status under her pic on facebook says "Phil. 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me"...
I even agreed to agree to disagree, and never bring up religion, but she said religion plays too big a role in her life. It's fucking confusing, because she said being with me was the best months of her life.

Sigh..  Thank you religion..     Oh well nothing I can do now, she found her a christian dude.   Got me a date tonight though woot woot

[Ellainix]

Now you only have one option. Un-convert her. If she's intelligent (like me! <3 ) she will figure it out with a little bit of logic. If she is a strong enough anti-logician, you'll have to fight an uphill battle. Does she have any weaknesses?