My boyfriend :(

[Ellainix]

My boyfriend whom I have loved very much is messing with some nasty slut. I was really mad at him about it, and now he blocked me on AIM facebook and somehow his phone. This is the worst Christmas/New Years of my life.      :verysad:  :verysad:  :mad:  :hissyfit:  :verysad:  

[Big Mac]

My boyfriend whom I have loved very much is messing with some nasty slut. I was really mad at him about it, and now he blocked me on AIM facebook and somehow his phone. This is the worst Christmas/New Years of my life.      :verysad:  :verysad:  :mad:  :hissyfit:  :verysad:  

I'm sorry, I can give you a back rub and some other stuff if you like. Angry sex is the best.

[AlP]

Sorry about that Ellainix. Relationships suck sometimes =(.

[Big Mac]

Sorry about that Ellainix. Relationships suck sometimes =(.

Sam can give ladies back rubs and other things for free......

[OldGit]

That really hurts, I bet.  Sympathy and best wishes.

[SSY]

He doesn't like a nice guy.

[Whitney]

That sucks...nothing much you can do to fix it as it seems he is showing his true colors now.  All you can do is consider him a life experience and move on when you are ready.

[Will]

You deserve a lot better, Ellainix. He was weak and foolish, and he ruined a good thing with a person that's truly better than he is.

I've been cheated on before and while it's going to sting for a while, a way down the road you'll be able to look back on this and know that you came out the other side. For now, surround yourself with friends.

[onlinej]

@Ellainix: Why would you share that with people on a forum dedicated to an unrelated topic?

@Everyone else: On the other hand, most of the replies so far seem to me to be just the politically correct thing to say. It's obviously a nasty thing, but why do you pass judments without knowing the guy/the story/his reasons/and so on. Weren't atheists the group that needed proof before reaching a conclusion?

[Whitney]

ut why do you pass judments without knowing the guy/the story/his reasons/and so on. Weren't atheists the group that needed proof before reaching a conclusion?

There is no story that can defend cheating....if he wanted to date someone else he should have ended his relationship with Ellainix.  If she is making up that her boyfriend cheated on her...who cares?  But she has given us no reason to think she makes a habit of fabricating stories just to get attention so we grant her the benefit of our trust just like we would any friend irl.

Why would you share that with people on a forum dedicated to an unrelated topic?

In case you didn't notice...this forum can be for virtually any topic (other than preaching) and that this is the laid back lounge where ppl can post whatever is on their mind.  Leave the moderating to the moderators.

[curiosityandthecat]

@Everyone else: On the other hand, most of the replies so far seem to me to be just the politically correct thing to say. It's obviously a nasty thing, but why do you pass judments without knowing the guy/the story/his reasons/and so on. Weren't atheists the group that needed proof before reaching a conclusion?

We are friends, here. Friends have each others' backs. That's what they do. Nobody here hates her boyfriend personally, only as an archetype. Sometimes you just need to console your friends instead of going down the road of scientific method.  :hmm: Politically correct would be Maybe it's not what it looks like; there could be some deeper issues here that he's working through. But that's not what Ellainix needs or wants right now.

[Ellainix]

Thanks for the kind words guys... even the criticism made me feel a little better, somehow. It's so weird that he did that, it's like he stabbed me in the back and then dropped off the face of the earth. Feels like three years of my life lost. I won't be getting over this anytime soon.  

[SSY]

The thing that always got to the most about cheating, is when the cheating partner puts their own gratification a long way ahead of their consideration for your feelings, it makes you feel like you never really meant anything to them (at least for me). What makes this even more depressing is the fact that evolution rewards cheating, through various mechanisms for both sexes, while I take some consolation in the fact that cheating was driven by a base animal urge, it further saddens me that humans will in all likelihood find it difficult overcoming these desires, ensuring cheating is here to stay.

Still though, at least you didn't marry him/have kids with him and then find out once you were even more exposed.

[onlinej]

@Whitney

this is the laid back lounge where ppl can post whatever is on their mind.

Granted, forgot about that. I hope you can find it in your heart to forgive me, and if it's any help, I already did (forgive myself 'Nobodysgot' my back.

@Ellainix: I've heard of a study that said that guys actually are more attached and it takes them longer to get over a relationship than it does the women. Even if it appears the other way around.
And if everything else fails, I see your worldview is 'buddhist', so you've experienced first hand the first noble truth... and the second. But given the fact that you knew attachment creates suffering, maybe you should acknowledge that this occasional hurt is the price we pay for relationships. My advice would be to start tae-bo or something that gets your blood pumping, guaranteed to take you out of any depression.

[curiosityandthecat]

I guess that would make sense, but since I'm new here, I haven't had the time to feel the love  We are a bunch of big, fuzzy teddy bears, after all.