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Started by Ellainix, January 01, 2010, 07:43:43 AM

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Ellainix

#15
January 06, 2010, 04:43:12 AM
Quote from: "onlinej"@Ellainix: I've heard of a study that said that guys actually are more attached and it takes them longer to get over a relationship than it does the women. Even if it appears the other way around.
And if everything else fails, I see your worldview is 'buddhist', so you've experienced first hand the first noble truth... and the second. But given the fact that you knew attachment creates suffering, maybe you should acknowledge that this occasional hurt is the price we pay for relationships. My advice would be to start tae-bo or something that gets your blood pumping, guaranteed to take you out of any depression.

I see we are both enlightened of my own stupidity :P
Quote from: "Ivan Tudor C McHock"If your faith in god is due to your need to explain the origin of the universe, and you do not apply this same logic to the origin of god, then you are an idiot.

Ellainix

#16
January 12, 2010, 08:29:18 PM
He talked to me last night and said he was sorry. That's cool, but he's still with her.  :mad:
Quote from: "Ivan Tudor C McHock"If your faith in god is due to your need to explain the origin of the universe, and you do not apply this same logic to the origin of god, then you are an idiot.

theTwiz

#17
January 12, 2010, 10:56:35 PM
When my cousin's husband cheated on her and she filed for divorce, he started pulling some ultra-shady stuff like hanging around her apartment parking lot late at night; her car got broken into once and we were pretty sure it was him or one of his buddies.

So, to send a message my brother and I went to the Vietnamese fish market, found this crazy evil-looking fish with buck-teeth and let it sit outside for a few days in the summer (we Live in Texas).  Then we boxed it up, and shipped it to his parents' house (where he was living) via the slowest UPS method available.

To this day we have not heard from him or any of his friends.

Not that you should do this, just thought it was funny.
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OMG HE CHANGED HIS SIGNATURE

Ellainix

#18
January 14, 2010, 04:47:51 AM
I am psycho, do not temp me.
Quote from: "Ivan Tudor C McHock"If your faith in god is due to your need to explain the origin of the universe, and you do not apply this same logic to the origin of god, then you are an idiot.

curiosityandthecat

#19
January 14, 2010, 05:05:37 AM
Quote from: "Ellainix"I am psycho
And this is why we love you.  :exphug:
-Curio

LoneMateria

#20
January 14, 2010, 05:15:46 PM
Quote from: "Ellainix"I am psycho, do not temp me.
woohoo

You are our psycho.  Have you ever considered super gluing his member to his leg?  I'm full of funny/evil temptation ideas.

In all seriousness its a suckie situation for you.  Don't take him back and burn any shit he has at your place.  If he asks for it back tell him cheaters get their property ritualistically burned.
Quote from: "Richard Lederer"There once was a time when all people believed in God and the church ruled. This time was called the Dark Ages
Quote from: "Demosthenes"A man is his own easiest dupe, for what he wishes to be true he generally believes to be true.
Quote from: "Oscar Wilde"Truth, in matters of religion, is simpl

Will

#21
January 15, 2010, 05:55:46 AM
Quote from: "onlinej"@Everyone else: On the other hand, most of the replies so far seem to me to be just the politically correct thing to say. It's obviously a nasty thing, but why do you pass judments without knowing the guy/the story/his reasons/and so on. Weren't atheists the group that needed proof before reaching a conclusion?
There's no acceptable reason to cheat, end of story. Have you ever been cheated on? I have.
I want bad people to look forward to and celebrate the day I die, because if they don't, I'm not living up to my potential.

skepticbjj

#22
January 15, 2010, 07:03:05 AM
Quote from: "Will"You deserve a lot better, Ellainix. He was weak and foolish, and he ruined a good thing with a person that's truly better than he is.

I've been cheated on before and while it's going to sting for a while, a way down the road you'll be able to look back on this and know that you came out the other side. For now, surround yourself with friends.

Figured my first post would just be to 2nd this reply "surround yourself with friends."
Yes I'm atheist and no I don't hate theist OR think they are dumb....well most at least  :)

AlP

#23
January 15, 2010, 07:05:14 AM
Quote from: "onlinej"@Ellainix: Why would you share that with people on a forum dedicated to an unrelated topic?

@Everyone else: On the other hand, most of the replies so far seem to me to be just the politically correct thing to say. It's obviously a nasty thing, but why do you pass judments without knowing the guy/the story/his reasons/and so on. Weren't atheists the group that needed proof before reaching a conclusion?
I agree with Will on this. I'll put it differently though. When you enter a relationship you (implicitly or explicitly) make some obligations. It is true that they are simply the prevailing norms of western society but nevertheless you make some obligations. If, like me, you object to the obligations then, I think, don't enter a relationship. It's dishonest and disrespectful. Or in other words, don't cause harm to have sex.
"I rebel -- therefore we exist." - Camus

onlinej

#24
January 15, 2010, 02:25:38 PM
Quote from: "Will"There's no acceptable reason to cheat, end of story. Have you ever been cheated on? I have.

I haven't been cheated on to the best of my knowledge, and I didn't mean to imply that it's somehow ok to cheat. I still care for you Will, maybe one day you'll forgive me. On the other hand, with all the love I have for you I think you should take some responsibility for being cheated on and move on. Forgive her, forgive yourself, improve yourself and let the chips fall where they may. I agree more with AIP rephrasing and I actually broke up with a girl not because it was something wrong but because I found myself wanting something more/new and I didn't want to cheat on her.

Bottom line: cheating is wrong, but if you've been cheated on you carry some responsibility.

"But you don't hear me not complaining" - Bender ;)
Oh honey, I'm baaaaack! http://onlinejesus.wordpress.com/

onlinej

#25
January 15, 2010, 02:29:33 PM
Quote from: "Ellainix"I see we are both enlightened of my own stupidity ;)
Oh honey, I'm baaaaack! http://onlinejesus.wordpress.com/

theTwiz

#26
January 16, 2010, 03:06:31 AM
Quote from: "onlinej"Bottom line: cheating is wrong, but if you've been cheated on you carry some responsibility.

Yeah when I cheated on my girlfriend in college she definitely carried some of the responsibility.  I mean honestly, if she would've just taken those blowjob classes like I asked her to, I wouldn't have had to go out and find other girls to have sex with.

edit: I can't seem to find the sarcasm tag, did we remove it?
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OMG HE CHANGED HIS SIGNATURE

Will

#27
January 16, 2010, 03:15:22 AM
Quote from: "onlinej"[I haven't been cheated on to the best of my knowledge, and I didn't mean to imply that it's somehow ok to cheat. I still care for you Will, maybe one day you'll forgive me. On the other hand, with all the love I have for you I think you should take some responsibility for being cheated on and move on. Forgive her, forgive yourself, improve yourself and let the chips fall where they may. I agree more with AIP rephrasing and I actually broke up with a girl not because it was something wrong but because I found myself wanting something more/new and I didn't want to cheat on her.

Bottom line: cheating is wrong, but if you've been cheated on you carry some responsibility.

"But you don't hear me not complaining" - Bender ;)
I forgave her a very, very long time ago, but forgiveness does not necessarily come with trust. Forgiveness comes from within, but earning back trust comes from without.

As for cheating somehow being the responsibility of both parties, that's hogwash. If you're in an exclusive relationship with one person, having the mutual understanding of exclusivity, and then you have a romantic and/or sexual encounter with another person, you yourself are responsible. Your partner is a victim and you are the perpetrator.
I want bad people to look forward to and celebrate the day I die, because if they don't, I'm not living up to my potential.

skepticbjj

#28
January 16, 2010, 03:30:15 AM
Quote from: "Will"As for cheating somehow being the responsibility of both parties, that's hogwash. If you're in an exclusive relationship with one person, having the mutual understanding of exclusivity, and then you have a romantic and/or sexual encounter with another person, you yourself are responsible. Your partner is a victim and you are the perpetrator.

I'd have to agree since both parties usually agree that it's exclusive until one of the parties says they no longer want that.  Cheating IMO is NOT equal to saying I want out.  But then again I might be jaded....that's just my view until someone can change it.
Yes I'm atheist and no I don't hate theist OR think they are dumb....well most at least  :)
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