Dating / Relationship advice

[No one]

this guy:
Have you tried tacos?

Mr. Pam:
I didn't get the impression that she was a 'taco' kind of lady.

Curt:
Why would I want to switch to tacos the Sushi evening ended quite well indeed!

Oh ye of litte faith.
Your tower of blasphemy shall come crumbling down when the heavenly seasoned Carne Asada lays its vengeance upon thee.

Perhaps this world rocking sexins was little more than seismic rumbling.

But, if she is just not into you, move on. Not saying that it is easy to face rejection, but, forced attachment can only lead to sorrow and pain.

[Icarus]

Oh ye of litte faith.
Your tower of blasphemy shall come crumbling down when the heavenly seasoned Carne Asada lays its vengeance upon thee.

Perhaps this world rocking sexins was little more than seismic rumbling.

But, if she is just not into you, move on. Not saying that it is easy to face rejection, but, forced attachment can only lead to sorrow and pain.
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[billy rubin]

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Oh well it is to bad I liked her.

Did you tell her this?

How is she going to "feel the spark or develop  any emotional interest" if she doesn't hear you say it?

^^^%yes yes yes yes


sometimes people give up on someone because that person didn't ever tell them how much they were interested.

screw the intuition. don't be a pushy stalking a hole, but before you move on, give this a shot.

[Randy]

Well, she's honest. She told you how she feels. "She's not feeling the spark or developing any emotional interest"...But...
You think,  "She is an amazing woman and you would like to get her to give you another chance and keep seeing her."

You should tell her how YOU feel as well. Maybe she needs to hear it. If how you feel is irrelevant to her, than there's not much you can do --But you'll be able to move on, in peace.

I replied "I must say I am very surprised by your text.  I had a great time with you and would love to see you more, but I respect your space and feelings. Take care.

She basically texted me back saying she "I didnt do anything wrong she just felt we were running out of things to talk about and that isn't blaming me and its just as much her fault as mine."

Guess I didnt keep the spark alive and wasan't interesting enough going forward.  I thought we had good conversation our last date but guess we didnt.  Oh well it is to bad I liked her.

At least it was only four dates. It could have been a lot more and just when you think the relationship is solid she bailed.

I think the text you sent was enough. Anymore and I think she might take it as stalking.

Remember, there are more sushi tacos on the platter to choose from.

[billy rubin]

never give up on what might be. never do that. never.

i was married for ten years.

i fell in love with a woman who worked for me as a tech writer in a silicon valley job shop, grinding out manuals for IBM.

i threw it all away, and took her on a walk, and told her i had fallen in love with her.

i put everything i had ever thought important on that line.

turned out she felt the same, even though she had been with her husband for ten years as well.

we ran away together, divorced our respective spouses, and moved into a trailer in a corn field.

twenty seven years later we have five wonderful grown and growing children, a fierce and rewarding relationship of continuing fire and ice, and no financial future of any significance.

i would drop everything i am and do it again in a heartbeat.

[Magdalena]

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Oh well it is to bad I liked her.

Did you tell her this?

How is she going to "feel the spark or develop  any emotional interest" if she doesn't hear you say it?

^^^%yes yes yes yes


sometimes people give up on someone because that person didn't ever tell them how much they were interested.

screw the intuition.
...

...
don't be a pushy stalking a hole, but before you move on, give this a shot.

I like this.

[Bad Penny II]

A little background first. Went on 4 dates with a really beautiful woman. Smart woman who has a great career as well. 3rd date she invited me over to her place and she wanted me to bring sushi over. (Not a big fan of sushi myself but that what she wanted me to bring). We both ate the sushi and talked for a bit which then led to sex multiple times that evening. Great sex it was a wild and fun night. I guess Sushi is really an aphrodisiac after all! lol. For the 4th date we went out had a great dinner and conversation at a nice restaurant. Everything seemed to go well.

Well today I get a text from her that says the following. Not so sure how to say this so delicatlely, so I will just say it. Not sure we should see each other more. There is nothing wrong. I just don't think I am feeling the spark or developing any emotional interest. Wouldn't want to lead you on, as you seem like a genuine guy who has good intentions. End of text.

Text caught me off guard and didn't expect it. Thought we were getting along great. Although thinking back at the end of the 4th date she did not invite me back to her place which was just a couple blocks away. Didn't think much of it at the time. It was a weekday and I knew she had a early day at work the next day.  So how should I respond? She is an amazing woman and I would like to get her to give me another chance and keep seeing her. Don't want to sound desperate when I text her back. Any suggestions how I should respond? Thanks

Well after reading that I think if I was her I'd move on.
Perhaps you are attractive and she got a bit of that, a pretty dullard, and moved on.

Ooh, you're being nasty

I am not, I said he might be pretty.

Everyone else was nice.

Ye, so I saw, nice had been done and done.

[Curt]

Have you tried tacos?

I didn't get the impression that she was a 'taco' kind of lady.

Even if she isnt a "taco kind of lady" I myself love tacos.  So its a win win situation!