I'm considering coming out of the religious closet.

Started by skwurll, July 24, 2010, 08:54:14 AM

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Quote from: "skwurll"Just told my mom that I'm atheist, we had a pretty long discussion about it. I think she's still in denial.
It'll take a while and she may never come around totally, the best in the short term is acceptance.
Was it as difficult as you expected?

Well, it was a LOT easier once I told her atheism wasn't satan worship. She still thinks I'm going to hell though. I told her that I had no problem with her beliefs as long as she didn't try to force them on me. (I think she's still going to make me go to church on sundays though.) It was a bit easier than I expected, it just sort of came out.

I want to thank everyone here for their advice, it really helped me, I'm unsure how she feels about it though.
I don't think I'm going to get kicked out, but things probably won't go back to normal for a while.
Well as 'normal' was you pretending to follow your mum and dad's world view normal is not coming back, the truth lies ahead of you young man, best of luck
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Quote from: "skwurll"Just told my mom that I'm atheist, we had a pretty long discussion about it. I think she's still in denial.
It'll take a while and she may never come around totally, the best in the short term is acceptance.
Was it as difficult as you expected?

Well, it was a LOT easier once I told her atheism wasn't satan worship. She still thinks I'm going to hell though. I told her that I had no problem with her beliefs as long as she didn't try to force them on me. (I think she's still going to make me go to church on sundays though.) It was a bit easier than I expected, it just sort of came out.

I want to thank everyone here for their advice, it really helped me, I'm unsure how she feels about it though.
I don't think I'm going to get kicked out, but things probably won't go back to normal for a while.

That's good.  I would have, like a few others, suggested staying quiet.  My wife and I have to play it off where we live.  We live in a small town where we get a hated question, "What church do you go to?"  We lie to the effect that we go to one out of town, and then more often than not it is followed by, "Oh but you should visit our Church... we roll with the Holy Spirit like the best of them..." and other quirky comments to that effect.

I think we have brushed it off enough, though, since no one has asked us in a long time.

Anyway, I think it is also good to be open with your family.  I would suggest calling a truce, too.  Compromise that you won't try to convince her of your views and let them lay off trying to re-convert you.  In other words, talk about other things and avoid religious topic.  Come to think of it, it works with co-workers, friends, and acquaintances, too :P
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