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[BadPoison]

I'm so hot. You want me. PM me.









In all seriousness, why is it so hard to meet free thinking women? Oh wait, I live in Texas, and clearly don't know where to look.
On another note, I haven't been on the forum much lately because I've been very busy with work and school, but mainly my ex girlfriend. Some of you may remember my introductory post where I described a women I was dating who broke things off because of her Christianity being incompatible with my atheism. Well, my most recent ex girlfriend did the same thing. Only this time, having learned from my previous relationship, I made sure to bring up her non-practicing Christianity and my atheism. I guess she lied when she said that she was fine with the idea. She doesn't want her kids to burn in hell. I wouldn't want my kids to burn in hell either, I just can't find any reason to live my life like hell exists (or to teach my children about hell...)

All in all, an otherwise perfect relationship that in an alternate reality would have very likely have ended in 'holy matrimony' has been shot in the head by religion.

-Joseph

[Kylyssa]

Give OKCupid a try.  I use them even to find atheist/freethinking friends in my area.  You can even set your profile so only atheists come up if you want.  I was shocked to find so many similarly minded people in my area.  I live in West Michigan, a very Calvinist area.

[Will]

I tried okcupid, but I was swamped with (forgive the term) jailbait night and day.

Freethinkers tend to be a lot more common in areas with intelligent and educated people. Try colleges, good libraries, book stores, etc. You might also try grocery stores in more affluent areas of town. I can't tell you how much easier it is for me to meet nice, smart, free thinking women at the Whole Foods in the nice part of town. Not that I intentionally peruse the aisles for ladies, but hey if I'm getting signals from the cute brunette near the onions when I'm buying produce, why not take a chance, right?

[Squid]

I understand your problem my friend, I really do. I have run into this myself.  However, I don't think I've ever dated a atheist girl now that I think about it.  They've all been apathetic, generic Christians for the most part.  Which the apathetic part helps out a lot, in regard to religion that is, but stay away from unmedicated bipolar girls...it's a tragedy of Shakespearean proportions waiting to happen...

[Hitsumei]

Well, women that belong to my particular dating pool tend to be anti-religious, although not atheistic -- though some of them are. I've rarely met many staunch religious types, although I have met them.

My advice to you, is if you want to meet women that at least probably will be too liberal to care about your religious leanings, become a liberal activist. A good half of the people that attend environment protests, animal rights protests, anti-war protests, and things like that are not there because they particularly care, nor know about the issue. They're a great place for liberal, largely secular individuals to hook up.

Or, at least they were back in the day. I haven't attended them in awhile. Art shows are too though, and I still attend those because I genuinely love art.

[VanReal]

I like Will's advice.  But step it up a notch and go to the grocery store late Sunday morning.  At least then you know they aren't at church.

[Kylyssa]

I tried okcupid, but I was swamped with (forgive the term) jailbait night and day.

C'mon, the youngest you can be on OKC is 18.  I've found some nice atheist/agnostic/liberal girls on OKC.  I'm courting a couple of them currently.  

I've also found some lovely friends on OKC including couples.  The college advice may be good in some areas but here most of the colleges are all bible colleges.

[Will]

C'mon, the youngest you can be on OKC is 18.

It's not difficult to subtract 1 from your year of birth. High school girls want to date older men, and they see OKC as an opportunity. I took out a supposedly 21 year old who turned out to be about a week from her 18th birthday. I'm not above the old "let's compare driver's license pictures" trick.

[curiosityandthecat]

C'mon, the youngest you can be on OKC is 18.

It's not difficult to subtract 1 from your year of birth. High school girls want to date older men, and they see OKC as an opportunity. I took out a supposedly 21 year old who turned out to be about a week from her 18th birthday. I'm not above the old "let's compare driver's license pictures" trick.

Never done an online dating service, never desired to. I know a couple people who tried it and absolutely nothing ever came of it. I suppose it could be useful, though, if you're somewhat alienated in your area, like Kylyssa said.

BadPoison, I'll throw out my usual suggestion: get a bachelors (doesn't matter in what), find a job teaching English in Asia, and move. Everything else will work out.  

[MommaSquid]

In all seriousness, why is it so hard to meet free thinking women? Oh wait, I live in Texas, and clearly don't know where to look.-Joseph

May I suggest TRF?  I have met many freethinkers and pagans at the AZRF.  

 :banna:

[BadPoison]

Thanks for the encouragement fellas.

You'll probably see me around the forum more now that I have more time. =)
 

[Whitney]

BadPoison,

Try www.meetup.com  just go to groups that you are intersted in (and there are singles groups too) and you are likely to run into a like minded young lady.  I'm pretty sure Houston has a freethough meetup...if they don't, start one.  There is also a freethinkers matchmaking site  http://www.freethinkermatch.com/  I have not used it but it is exclusively for atheists, agnostics and other 'freethinkers.'  

I can't say that I have very much good to say about online dating.  Before I met my husband I would occasionally meet guys I had talked to on yahoo for a while and they were never what I was expecting.  I'm not saying I'm completely shallow, but a lot of people do not put up an image which reflects what they currently look like.  Speaking of those guys, one of them that was much younger and, uh, not as nice looking as I had expected sent me a meesage last night...apparently he still thinks about me even though he is married now  I only met him once.  

Anyway, online dating is hit and miss; always meet in a public place with lots of people (even guys should be careful, you never know).

[Squid]

I will also add that I have had zero luck with internet dating.  All the girls that I've been with I have met through other avenues - other people mostly also work and school.  I currently go to school with some wonderful, beautiful, smart girls - unfortunately not even one of them is single...damn the luck.

[BadPoison]

Wow, all of this bad luck with internet dating! Ironically the girl that recently broke things off with me I met online.
I made an OKCupid profile - and so far the site seems much better than the dating sites I've tried in the past. I've already talked to some neat women in my area - I think the site being free helps to expand it's user base.

Also, I like OKCupid's journal post feature. I just posted a short essay I wrote on religion and children.

I'll quote it for your enjoyment.  
I'm sure everyone here mostly already agrees with what I say though.
http://www.okcupid.com/profile/BadPoison/journal

So is religion like culture in that it's a sacred right that should be passed down from parents to children throughout generations. Or is religion more like mental abuse to a child, who's mind is so malleable and impressionable they'll believe anything an adult tells them. Do you know any kids that believe in Santa Clause?
Many would say that part of being a parent is passing on your own sacred beliefs. It's not only your right, but your duty. You should impress upon your child the same unquestioned morals that were impressed upon yourself as a kid. How else could a child ever be expected to be righteous. They couldn't come up with their own morals after all.
While this may be the norm, I am unfortunately forced to disagree. Instead of forcing upon your child unquestioned beliefs (which may rob them of their ability to think freely), I propose parents instead encourage their children to be critical thinkers. Help children sharpen their own minds so that they might have the tools to come to their own conclusions about the world, and their place within it. Teach children that authority should be expected, but that it's always okay to question authority.
If there's one thing statistics tell us, it's that in all likelihood a child will die with the same beliefs of their parents. Statistically speaking, the region/country/location of your birth has more correlated influence on your belief at death than anything else. A child born in Dubai is likely to die a Muslim just as a child born in India will probably be of some Hindu sect.
I hope that everyone questions their own beliefs and thinks of them critically, just as I call for the next generation to question my own. Improving the human condition starts with the family.

[G.ENIGMA]

I like Will's advice.  But step it up a notch and go to the grocery store late Sunday morning.  At least then you know they aren't at church.

Unless they are preparing for the vicars sausage and eggs...