Dating / Relationship advice

[Curt]

A little background first. Went on 4 dates with a really beautiful woman. Smart woman who has a great career as well. 3rd date she invited me over to her place and she wanted me to bring sushi over. (Not a big fan of sushi myself but that what she wanted me to bring). We both ate the sushi and talked for a bit which then led to sex multiple times that evening. Great sex it was a wild and fun night. I guess Sushi is really an aphrodisiac after all! lol. For the 4th date we went out had a great dinner and conversation at a nice restaurant. Everything seemed to go well.

Well today I get a text from her that says the following. Not so sure how to say this so delicatlely, so I will just say it. Not sure we should see each other more. There is nothing wrong. I just don't think I am feeling the spark or developing any emotional interest. Wouldn't want to lead you on, as you seem like a genuine guy who has good intentions. End of text.

Text caught me off guard and didn't expect it. Thought we were getting along great. Although thinking back at the end of the 4th date she did not invite me back to her place which was just a couple blocks away. Didn't think much of it at the time. It was a weekday and I knew she had a early day at work the next day.  So how should I respond? She is an amazing woman and I would like to get her to give me another chance and keep seeing her. Don't want to sound desperate when I text her back. Any suggestions how I should respond? Thanks

[Tank]

1) Don't respond. Chalk it up to experience. Move on.
2) Respond, It was fun while it lasted. Chalk it up to experience. Move on.
3) Respond, It was fun while it lasted. Ask for any particular reason that it ended. If no response chalk it up to experience. Move on.
4) Respond, with a big bunch of flowers, and say It was fun while it lasted. Chalk it up to experience. Move on.
5) Respond, with a big bunch of flowers, and say It was fun while it lasted. Ask for any particular reason that it ended. If no response chalk it up to experience. Move on.
6) Respond like a crying baby to be allowed to remain in her friend zone. Work from there. 

I think 4 is the most mature.

[hermes2015]

I've had almost zero experience in the straight world, but I've been around the block (read waterfront, a la Tennessee Williams) a few times. To me, Tank's option 2 sounds the best.

[billy rubin]

respond with flowers, tell her you enjoyed the relationzhip, wish her well,  move on, check back after a long enough time that a reset might be possible.

dont be pushy. she soundz like she knows what shez looking for

[Magdalena]

Well, she's honest. She told you how she feels. "She's not feeling the spark or developing any emotional interest"...But...
You think,  "She is an amazing woman and you would like to get her to give you another chance and keep seeing her."

You should tell her how YOU feel as well. Maybe she needs to hear it. If how you feel is irrelevant to her, than there's not much you can do --But you'll be able to move on, in peace.

[xSilverPhinx]

Well, she's honest. She told you how she feels. "She's not feeling the spark or developing any emotional interest"...But...
You think,  "She is an amazing woman and you would like to get her to give you another chance and keep seeing her."

You should tell her how YOU feel as well. Maybe she needs to hear it. If how you feel is irrelevant to her, than there's not much you can do --But you'll be able to move on, in peace.

[Tank]

Well, she's honest. She told you how she feels. "She's not feeling the spark or developing any emotional interest"...But...
You think,  "She is an amazing woman and you would like to get her to give you another chance and keep seeing her."

You should tell her how YOU feel as well. Maybe she needs to hear it. If how you feel is irrelevant to her, than there's not much you can do --But you'll be able to move on, in peace.

Mags makes a good point. If you don't tell her how you feel how will anything happen one way or the other.

[No one]

Have you tried tacos?

[Tank]

Have you tried tacos?

I didn't get the impression that she was a 'taco' kind of lady.

[Davin]

Mags has the answer.

You have to be willing to accept that she doesn't want to see you anymore.

[xSilverPhinx]

Have you tried tacos?

[Curt]

Well, she's honest. She told you how she feels. "She's not feeling the spark or developing any emotional interest"...But...
You think,  "She is an amazing woman and you would like to get her to give you another chance and keep seeing her."

You should tell her how YOU feel as well. Maybe she needs to hear it. If how you feel is irrelevant to her, than there's not much you can do --But you'll be able to move on, in peace.

I replied "I must say I am very surprised by your text.  I had a great time with you and would love to see you more, but I respect your space and feelings. Take care.

She basically texted me back saying she "I didnt do anything wrong she just felt we were running out of things to talk about and that isn't blaming me and its just as much her fault as mine."

Guess I didnt keep the spark alive and wasan't interesting enough going forward.  I thought we had good conversation our last date but guess we didnt.  Oh well it is to bad I liked her.

[Curt]

Have you tried tacos?

Why would I want to switch to tacos the Sushi evening ended quite well indeed! 

[Magdalena]

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Oh well it is to bad I liked her.

Did you tell her this?

How is she going to "feel the spark or develop  any emotional interest" if she doesn't hear you say it?

[Magdalena]

...
6) Respond like a crying baby to be allowed to remain in her friend zone. Work from there.