Why Are There Gay Men?

[Tank]

When applied to human faces adjectives like Pretty and Beautiful etc. often indicate lateral symmetry which is indicative of an unmutated gene structure.

[En_Route]

I think it's interesting that Stevil concludes that we look for "pretty" because pretty = great sex.  Is that everyone else's experience, that pretty = great sex?  Maybe I'm not that visual, but give me "funny" and "eager to please" over pretty any day of the week. 

I think men do rate physical attractiveness very highly. Too highly for their own good quite often. Pretty is rather an anaemic term; voluptuous  is perhaps more descriptive of what presses our hot button.
In determining what makes for great sex, I think in many respects it's a question of mind over matter. Imagination and generosity far out- rank athleticism or perfection of physique in the bedroom ( or preferably out of it).

[Ali]

As they say, we all look the same in the dark....

[OldGit]

Or as we Brits put it: 'You don't look at the mantlepiece when you poke the fire'.

[Ali]

Or as we Brits put it: 'You don't look at the mantlepiece when you poke the fire'.

LMAO.  That's awesome.  I guess the American equivalent is "Put a flag over his head and ride him for Freedom." 

[Tank]

Or as we Brits put it: 'You don't look at the mantlepiece when you poke the fire'.

LMAO.  That's awesome.  I guess the American equivalent is "Put a flag over his head and ride him for Freedom." 

LMAO!!!

[Stevil]

I don't know how true this is for women, tho it may be generally true for men.  When it comes to sex, women's priorities tend to be more complicated just because our end of reproduction tends to be more complicated and I think this holds true even if a woman is not consciously looking for a future father-of-my-kids, or even looking for a man.  I think evolution gears women to look more for protection and security rather than just pretty -- altho that's part of it too, esp. considering some regard good looks as a marker for good health.

Why is/was Brad Pitt considered sexy, or Antonio Banderas...

I don't buy it that women don't have aesthetic preferences in men.

[Stevil]

In determining what makes for great sex, I think in many respects it's a question of mind over matter. Imagination and generosity far out- rank athleticism or perfection of physique in the bedroom ( or preferably out of it).

When we don't know a person, we approach the good lookers.
We certainly don't know what they are like at sex until its too late.

I am only suggesting that we tend to go for beauty because we assume it leads to great sex.
I don't think we do it for advantageous offspring, when I picked my partner I certainly wasn't considering what my kids would look like.

[DeterminedJuliet]

I don't know how true this is for women, tho it may be generally true for men.  When it comes to sex, women's priorities tend to be more complicated just because our end of reproduction tends to be more complicated and I think this holds true even if a woman is not consciously looking for a future father-of-my-kids, or even looking for a man.  I think evolution gears women to look more for protection and security rather than just pretty -- altho that's part of it too, esp. considering some regard good looks as a marker for good health.

Why is/was Brad Pitt considered sexy, or Antonio Banderas...

I don't buy it that women don't have aesthetic preferences in men.

Me neither  Though, I'm not sure that's what anyone was saying.

[Stevil]

Me neither  Though, I'm not sure that's what anyone was saying.

Calling someone sexy would imply that they would make for good sex?

[Crow]

In determining what makes for great sex, I think in many respects it's a question of mind over matter. Imagination and generosity far out- rank athleticism or perfection of physique in the bedroom ( or preferably out of it).

Depends on the type of sex, if you want a good fucking then athleticism and strength certainly come into it. Otherwise yeah I'd agree. As long as each individual puts in approximately the same amount of effort then its usually good.

[Ali]

I don't know how true this is for women, tho it may be generally true for men.  When it comes to sex, women's priorities tend to be more complicated just because our end of reproduction tends to be more complicated and I think this holds true even if a woman is not consciously looking for a future father-of-my-kids, or even looking for a man.  I think evolution gears women to look more for protection and security rather than just pretty -- altho that's part of it too, esp. considering some regard good looks as a marker for good health.

Why is/was Brad Pitt considered sexy, or Antonio Banderas...

I don't buy it that women don't have aesthetic preferences in men.

Sure they do.  It's just more complicated than that.

[Stevil]

Sure they do.  It's just more complicated than that.

Yes, I find most women to be complex.

[En_Route]

In determining what makes for great sex, I think in many respects it's a question of mind over matter. Imagination and generosity far out- rank athleticism or perfection of physique in the bedroom ( or preferably out of it).

Depends on the type of sex, if you want a good fucking then athleticism and strength certainly come into it. Otherwise yeah I'd agree. As long as each individual puts in approximately the same amount of effort then its usually good.

.It's maybe the difference between an erotic  masterwork and a wham bam thank you ma'am porno production. Being rather more proficient on the imaginative than the athletic front, this could of course be special pleading on my part.

[DeterminedJuliet]

Me neither  Though, I'm not sure that's what anyone was saying.

Calling someone sexy would imply that they would make for good sex?

Who's calling them sexy? Personally, I don't think Antonio Banderas is worth writing home about, though I guess some people like his accent?
Anyone who categorical labels guys as "sexy" or "not sexy" would probably agree with you about women finding men's appearance an attraction factor. I'm one of those women, I definitely have a physical/appearance "type" and I know it. But was there someone here who said that a man was "sexy" but implied that appearance had nothing to do with it? Maybe there was and I missed it, but most people just seem to be saying the women tend to be a little bit more complicated when it comes to finding someone attractive. I mostly agree with that.