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Title: Becoming that which you dislike
Post by: Whitney on February 15, 2012, 03:17:23 AM
After seeing quite a few comments I'd consider inappropriate coming from the admins of a popular humanist fb page...it got me thinking.  As labels such as "humanist" and "secular" become something people are less afraid to wear; what keeps it from becoming just as bad as some of the religions those same people claim to dislike?  Comments in question are things like stereotyping a whole class of people then acting like it's okay to do that.  Why are some people feeling the need to promote unrelated ideas under the banner of secularism and humanism when they should just let it be what it really is?

I find it a bit frustrating...especially since I try to help promote an understanding of atheist/humanist/secular that is pure rather than mixing politics and humor into it that I know not all other people who fall under that label would necessarily support just by their being an atheist/humanist/secular.

edit:  the post on the fb page that sparked me making this comment was taken down (along with 50+ comments) ...same happened with other questionable posts from the same page (there have been more that I didn't approve of that I later saw gone...but can't remember what they were specifically off hand) http://www.facebook.com/GSHMP The post had a picture of an obviously Muslim couple both holding guns and the caption was something like "valentines around the world"  I have removed the page from my "likes"
Title: Re: Becoming that which you dislike
Post by: hismikeness on February 15, 2012, 04:46:51 AM
Sounds like the kind of post/email that belongs here (http://myrightwingdad.blogspot.com/). It's a museum of ridiculousness. And a couple of emails I've received from family members have appeared...
Title: Re: Becoming that which you dislike
Post by: Ali on February 15, 2012, 04:55:52 AM
My thought is: being atheists certainly doesn't make us perfect or strip us from other prejudices.  Some atheists cling to theirs as well.  Doesn't mean that atheists are particularly bad or anything like that. 
Title: Re: Becoming that which you dislike
Post by: Tank on February 15, 2012, 06:21:06 AM
I feel there is some evidence that atheists are going through the Tuckman's stages of group development (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tuckman%27s_stages_of_group_development) "Teams - Forming, Storming, Norming, Performing" and are currently in the "Storming" stage.

Title: Re: Becoming that which you dislike
Post by: Genericguy on February 15, 2012, 07:19:00 AM
Atheists are not an elite group of people. We are the same assholes and wonderful people that belong to all the religions and are therefor susceptible to all the same underlying issues that we find problematic within those religions. However, I think we have an advantage. As a species, we are smarter than we were when the major religions were in their "storming" stages. I think/hope we will pull through it in a better manner.
Title: Re: Becoming that which you dislike
Post by: Tank on February 15, 2012, 09:47:50 AM
Quote from: Genericguy on February 15, 2012, 07:19:00 AM
Atheists are not an elite group of people. We are the same assholes and wonderful people that belong to all the religions and are therefor susceptible to all the same underlying issues that we find problematic within those religions. However, I think we have an advantage. As a species, we are smarter than we were when the major religions were in their "storming" stages. I think/hope we will pull through it in a better manner.
It's actually debatable if we are smarter, better informed yes, smarted is debatable. The negative side of atheism is that the focus is a rebellion against lies. That's all well and good as long as there are liars to rail against. Once Institutionalised Superstition has been routed (if it ever is) what will replace it for the majority of the population. How are the people of Afghanistan going to cope without Islam if there is no idealogical replacement for it? Many (the majority) of people need a tribe to belong to. If that tribe is nationalistic then we could have a problem. Unless a Swedish model of benevelnt socialism is adopted world we'll be in deep shit.
Title: Re: Becoming that which you dislike
Post by: Buddy on February 15, 2012, 01:32:38 PM
Quote from: Tank on February 15, 2012, 09:47:50 AM
Quote from: Genericguy on February 15, 2012, 07:19:00 AM
Atheists are not an elite group of people. We are the same assholes and wonderful people that belong to all the religions and are therefor susceptible to all the same underlying issues that we find problematic within those religions. However, I think we have an advantage. As a species, we are smarter than we were when the major religions were in their "storming" stages. I think/hope we will pull through it in a better manner.
It's actually debatable if we are smarter, better informed yes, smarted is debatable. The negative side of atheism is that the focus is a rebellion against lies. That's all well and good as long as there are liars to rail against. Once Institutionalised Superstition has been routed (if it ever is) what will replace it for the majority of the population. How are the people of Afghanistan going to cope without Islam if there is no idealogical replacement for it? Many (the majority) of people need a tribe to belong to. If that tribe is nationalistic then we could have a problem. Unless a Swedish model of benevelnt socialism is adopted world we'll be in deep shit.

Another thing is that some people seem to become atheist as a rebellion. Almost like a teenager not wanting to go to church with their parents, so they call themselves atheist. I've known a few people who do that, then later in life the switch right back to religion.
Title: Re: Becoming that which you dislike
Post by: The Magic Pudding on February 15, 2012, 01:53:14 PM
Quote from: Whitney on February 15, 2012, 03:17:23 AM
I find it a bit frustrating...especially since I try to help promote an understanding of atheist/humanist/secular that is pure rather than mixing politics and humor into it that I know not all other people who fall under that label would necessarily support just by their being an atheist/humanist/secular.

You do help promote understanding, some come here angry and maybe they're tempered a bit.  Others who are disturbed by the incessantly angry dogmatic atheists find an oasis here.  Purity isn't a virtue I expect from people.
Title: Re: Becoming that which you dislike
Post by: Whitney on February 15, 2012, 03:02:39 PM
I really don't expect atheist et all in general to be virtuous....it's the people who are putting themselves in positions of being a voice for other athesits etc and then use that platform indiscriminately that bother me. 

Take for instance our atheist image dump thread...lots of stuff in that is funny but I wouldn't post some of the more edgy ones in a manner that made it look like HAF was promoting it as something all atheists would find funny even if I personally found humor in them; like I wouldn't post some of them to our home page, fb, or twitter.  A good example of this is the jesus fucking christ image...funny, yet not appropriate to post in the name of an atheist organization as it sends the wrong message to those who we want to take us seriously.

When people who are trying to make themselves the voice of atheists et post or say things without thinking about how it makes us all look I feel that they just don't care.  With individuals I don't mind much what they say unless it's just so wrong that I'd say something no matter what wordlview they have.
Title: Re: Becoming that which you dislike
Post by: Tank on February 15, 2012, 03:29:48 PM
Quote from: Budhorse4 on February 15, 2012, 01:32:38 PM
Quote from: Tank on February 15, 2012, 09:47:50 AM
Quote from: Genericguy on February 15, 2012, 07:19:00 AM
Atheists are not an elite group of people. We are the same assholes and wonderful people that belong to all the religions and are therefor susceptible to all the same underlying issues that we find problematic within those religions. However, I think we have an advantage. As a species, we are smarter than we were when the major religions were in their "storming" stages. I think/hope we will pull through it in a better manner.
It's actually debatable if we are smarter, better informed yes, smarted is debatable. The negative side of atheism is that the focus is a rebellion against lies. That's all well and good as long as there are liars to rail against. Once Institutionalised Superstition has been routed (if it ever is) what will replace it for the majority of the population. How are the people of Afghanistan going to cope without Islam if there is no ideological replacement for it? Many (the majority) of people need a tribe to belong to. If that tribe is nationalistic then we could have a problem. Unless a Swedish model of benevolent socialism is adopted world we'll be in deep shit.

Another thing is that some people seem to become atheist as a rebellion. Almost like a teenager not wanting to go to church with their parents, so they call themselves atheist. I've known a few people who do that, then later in life the switch right back to religion.
I suppose that's to be expected as some teenagers just do anything and everything to annoy their parents.
Title: Re: Becoming that which you dislike
Post by: The Magic Pudding on February 15, 2012, 03:30:42 PM
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Title: Re: Becoming that which you dislike
Post by: Firebird on February 16, 2012, 03:59:16 AM
If and when atheism becomes more popular and "trendy", I imagine you will see more and more people doing things like what you object to, partly to show that they belong to this trendy group. That's just human nature, especially with younger and more immature people.
It's also trickier with atheism because, by its nature, there's no "lead atheist", like the pope with the Catholic Church or the head of the Anglican church. So who's to say what acceptable behavior under its banner really is? Sure, you can have established writers like Harris and Dawkins lay down some ground rules, but that's only one well-known atheist's opinion.
If you're talking about something like Humanism, which is a "non-theistic religion", then perhaps it's easier to declare what is acceptable within that community, but only to a point
Title: Re: Becoming that which you dislike
Post by: MinnesotaMike on February 16, 2012, 07:59:50 AM
On the page operator...

The page operator is actually an intelligent fellow, and he's using it as a place to broadcast opinion. I won't claim that it's the correct thing to do, but I don't know how I'd run a page like that after repeatedly being attacked (over Humanism of all things) by religious fanatics, so I won't judge his actions.


On the page members...

The people who are actively looking to be a part of a global movement are, unsurprisingly, pro-group mentality. What I don't quite understand is how it's unexpected of actively secular people to be against religion. Yes, it's both wrong and hypocritical of them to say "______ are ______," but there needs to be some tolerance for that. I'm sure I don't need to remind anyone here that tenants of certain religions involve some rather harsh treatment of outsiders. While it wouldn't be inaccurate to say that Islam or Christianity is anti-secular, it would be inaccurate to state that all Muslims and Christians are anti-secular. You can see where the linguistic mix ups may occur.


On us...

We should bear in mind that people don't always say what they mean. It's relatively easy to spot the militant, but it's even easier to assume it of those among the militant.
Title: Re: Becoming that which you dislike
Post by: Melmoth on February 16, 2012, 02:02:48 PM
Quote from: TankIt's actually debatable if we are smarter, better informed yes, smarted is debatable.

Depends on their motives. Some people are atheists purely because of an absence of religious upbringing. I probably fall into that category, and wouldn't say I'm better-informed than Christians, generally.

Also, to claim that you're "better informed" presumes that you're able to reliably self-assess. I look around me and I see people (Christian, atheist etc.) who are unable to identify their own logical gaps, no matter how much you try to point them out. There's ample evidence that human psychology is flawed in that way, so, presumably, I'm no different. If I've arrived at my position because of any rational/intellectual blind spots then, by definition, I won't be able to see them - probably not even when they're shoved down my throat by someone who can.

Quote from: Whitneyit's the people who are putting themselves in positions of being a voice for other athesits etc and then use that platform indiscriminately that bother me.

This, without the stipulation. Anyone who claims to speak for a whole sub-culture is kidding themselves, in the same way that Christians are kidding themselves when they attribute their own opinions to God. If they can't speak on their own behalf, why should I let them speak on mine.
Title: Re: Becoming that which you dislike
Post by: En_Route on February 16, 2012, 09:57:18 PM
On the whole atheists are likely to be more intellectually curious and questioning than theists,with a myriad of exceptions. That doesn't mean that they are more likely to be pleasant or benevolently-disposed towards humanity.
Title: Re: Becoming that which you dislike
Post by: statichaos on February 20, 2012, 04:10:13 AM
From an outsider's perspective, I've generally found most atheists to tend to be more tolerant, open, and friendly, if only because they don't have carte blanche from God to be assholes.  There are the rather nasty minority who express nothing but scorn and contempt not only for all religion (understandable if unfortunate), but for all believers (which I obviously have a difficult time dealing with).  I'm especially disturbed when I find elements of cultural bigotry underlying some of the comments that I've heard and read.  However, these people are not representative of atheists as a whole (who is?), so it's just a matter of calling them out when you see them.
Title: Re: Becoming that which you dislike
Post by: Reprobate on February 20, 2012, 11:24:53 PM
Quote from: Whitney on February 15, 2012, 03:17:23 AM
After seeing quite a few comments I'd consider inappropriate coming from the admins of a popular humanist fb page...it got me thinking.  As labels such as "humanist" and "secular" become something people are less afraid to wear; what keeps it from becoming just as bad as some of the religions those same people claim to dislike?  Comments in question are things like stereotyping a whole class of people then acting like it's okay to do that.  Why are some people feeling the need to promote unrelated ideas under the banner of secularism and humanism when they should just let it be what it really is?

I find it a bit frustrating...especially since I try to help promote an understanding of atheist/humanist/secular that is pure rather than mixing politics and humor into it that I know not all other people who fall under that label would necessarily support just by their being an atheist/humanist/secular.

edit:  the post on the fb page that sparked me making this comment was taken down (along with 50+ comments) ...same happened with other questionable posts from the same page (there have been more that I didn't approve of that I later saw gone...but can't remember what they were specifically off hand) http://www.facebook.com/GSHMP The post had a picture of an obviously Muslim couple both holding guns and the caption was something like "valentines around the world"  I have removed the page from my "likes"

Atheism is just not believing in god(s). Other than that, we atheist are not guaranteed to have anything at all in common. Joseph Stalin and Mao Tse-Tung were atheists. They are not what I would consider to be open-minded and tolerant people.
Title: Re: Becoming that which you dislike
Post by: Whitney on February 21, 2012, 01:23:58 AM
Quote from: Reprobate on February 20, 2012, 11:24:53 PM
Atheism is just not believing in god(s). Other than that, we atheist are not guaranteed to have anything at all in common.

Yes, which is part of my complaint...or perhaps it's just a pet peeve....the promoting of atheist/secular/humanist (each which are defined differently) in a way that goes beyond what those labels are intended to mean.  Basically, I wish people would start anti-theist groups (or something similar) when their main focus is obviously going against religions.
Title: Re: Becoming that which you dislike
Post by: Crow on February 21, 2012, 02:11:24 AM
Quote from: Whitney on February 21, 2012, 01:23:58 AM
Yes, which is part of my complaint...or perhaps it's just a pet peeve....the promoting of atheist/secular/humanist (each which are defined differently) in a way that goes beyond what those labels are intended to mean.  Basically, I wish people would start anti-theist groups (or something similar) when their main focus is obviously going against religions.

I absolutely agree with you on that.
Title: Re: Becoming that which you dislike
Post by: DeterminedJuliet on February 21, 2012, 02:19:20 AM
Quote from: Whitney on February 21, 2012, 01:23:58 AM
Quote from: Reprobate on February 20, 2012, 11:24:53 PM
Atheism is just not believing in god(s). Other than that, we atheist are not guaranteed to have anything at all in common.

Yes, which is part of my complaint...or perhaps it's just a pet peeve....the promoting of atheist/secular/humanist (each which are defined differently) in a way that goes beyond what those labels are intended to mean.  Basically, I wish people would start anti-theist groups (or something similar) when their main focus is obviously going against religions.

I definitely see why you are frustrated. It'd be nice if everyone who wanted to be the next poster-child for atheism had a sense of tact.
Title: Re: Becoming that which you dislike
Post by: Stevil on February 21, 2012, 06:49:17 AM
Controversy is good.

Atheism, secularism, humanism need people discussing and thinking through what they mean.
It does us no good to lurk in the shadows, we need to stand up and be noticed. From what I hear, it seems Americans in particular have an extremely warped understanding of what Atheism is. I mean how can Atheists be one of the most hated groups in the country? What is it that Americans are afraid of?

I think it is the unknown that creates this fear.

Even if some bad publicity comes out, at least it gets people talking, discussing and thinking about the topic. It doesn't take long to realise that Atheism does not incite violence or oppression. It is actually a very passive stance in that we don't organise ourselves against anyone.
Title: Re: Becoming that which you dislike
Post by: Sweetdeath on February 21, 2012, 05:22:34 PM
I suppose I can be a bit angry.
It's mainly because hearing people pray outloud or put faith into an imaginary being is anoyinning. Also,,religion seriously opresses women, and is violent towards homosexuals.
So yeah, that kinda grinds my gears .  I try to be nice, but when they start spewing feces from their mouth, it's hard to be sweet.
Title: Re: Becoming that which you dislike
Post by: statichaos on February 22, 2012, 08:05:35 PM
Quote from: Sweetdeath on February 21, 2012, 05:22:34 PM
I suppose I can be a bit angry.
It's mainly because hearing people pray outloud or put faith into an imaginary being is anoyinning. Also,,religion seriously opresses women, and is violent towards homosexuals.
So yeah, that kinda grinds my gears .  I try to be nice, but when they start spewing feces from their mouth, it's hard to be sweet.

I'm afraid that I have to take issue with that.  There are religions that do this, yes.  However, religion in general does not.  My former church actually sponsored a march in favor of the repeal of California's Proposition 8, and we were joined by several other faith groups from the area, including the United Church of Christ, the Methodists, several Episcopalians, and the Metropolitan Community Church.  I have no issue with you not believing in a God, or not belonging to a religion.  However, to state that religion as a whole oppresses women or is violent towards gays is not true.  Better to say that specific religions and followers of these religions do so.