I just told my mom that I am an Atheist less then 5 minutes ago out in the garage.
She reacted better then I had hoped, she said she was disappointed and asked me to go inside so she could cry....that's better then her getting up and yelling I suppose.
Firstly, hi and welcome!
Secondly, I'm glad she reacted "ok", though you might want to tell her in a few days time that belief in gods is not something you choose to have, you either believe or you don't...and that you're still the same person you always were even if you see things a little differently, though she might see that for herself once she gets past all the misconceptions about atheism she has with time.
Oh that closet, good luck.
Some people must have multiple closets to come out of, kind of like Babushka dolls.
I can't recall ever leaving a closet.
Well done for being honest with your mum. Her world view is not yours and visa versa. The problem is that there is so much superstitious baggage associated with a theistic world view like your mum's that she is going to have a hard time coming to terms with what you have told her. But you did the right thing by being straight with her.
Quote from: Tank on July 04, 2011, 09:43:20 AM
Well done for being honest with your mum. Her world view is not yours and visa versa. The problem is that there is so much superstitious baggage associated with a theistic world view like your mum's that she is going to have a hard time coming to terms with what you have told her. But you did the right thing by being straight with her.
Well, I've tried to keep it secret for months now, but it just became too hard keeping it up.
Quote from: Winterwolf00 on July 04, 2011, 09:51:48 AM
Quote from: Tank on July 04, 2011, 09:43:20 AM
Well done for being honest with your mum. Her world view is not yours and visa versa. The problem is that there is so much superstitious baggage associated with a theistic world view like your mum's that she is going to have a hard time coming to terms with what you have told her. But you did the right thing by being straight with her.
Well, I've tried to keep it secret for months now, but it just became too hard keeping it up.
Well any stress she feels is now because of the world view she chooses to hold, so you can't be held responsible for that or the results thereof. In a free society all people have the right to hold their own world view and that includes you.
Quote from: The Magic Pudding on July 04, 2011, 09:33:01 AM
Oh that closet, good luck.
Some people must have multiple closets to come out of, kind of like Babushka dolls.
I can't recall ever leaving a closet.
Nobody puts pudding in a closet.
Quote from: fester30 on July 04, 2011, 03:40:10 PM
Quote from: The Magic Pudding on July 04, 2011, 09:33:01 AM
Oh that closet, good luck.
Some people must have multiple closets to come out of, kind of like Babushka dolls.
I can't recall ever leaving a closet.
Nobody puts pudding in a closet.
But then the pudding would go bad. D:
Welcome Wolf!
I guess it is sad that your mum is sad, but you're rigjt, it is better than yelling.
I've been a "non-believer" for years, but I'm pretty sure I will never tell my father directly about it (he's die-hard catholic, still goes to church every Sunday, etc.)
But then, he's pretty open about the fact that he'd rather not know about things that don't support his worldview. He's a smart man, but he chooses willful ignorance about a lot of things. ::)
Hopefully you can be a good ambassador for atheism to her :)
Quote from: DeterminedJuliet on July 04, 2011, 10:42:14 PM
I've been a "non-believer" for years, but I'm pretty sure I will never tell my father directly about it (he's die-hard catholic, still goes to church every Sunday, etc.)
But then, he's pretty open about the fact that he'd rather not know about things that don't support his worldview. He's a smart man, but he chooses willful ignorance about a lot of things. ::)
Hopefully you can be a good ambassador for atheism to her :)
I'll try, she asked me If I believed in *Darwinism* and do I believe that the Earth just * appeared* I was a little stunned by the irony of that last one.
Since my family is of the more liberal christian variety (i was brought up to accept all science as valid along with the bible), I don't have any helpful input other than to second the suggestion to help your mom realize that you still the same person who loves her despite no longer accepting her religious views.
Quote from: The Magic Pudding on July 04, 2011, 09:33:01 AM
Oh that closet, good luck.
Some people must have multiple closets to come out of, kind of like Babushka dolls.
I can't recall ever leaving a closet.
Yeah, I think I've come out of like four at this point, lol.
Quote from: The Magic Pudding on July 04, 2011, 09:33:01 AM
Oh that closet, good luck.
Some people must have multiple closets to come out of, kind of like Babushka dolls.
I can't recall ever leaving a closet.
You obviously never went to Narnia.
Quote from: karadan on July 08, 2011, 03:04:14 PM
Quote from: The Magic Pudding on July 04, 2011, 09:33:01 AM
Oh that closet, good luck.
Some people must have multiple closets to come out of, kind of like Babushka dolls.
I can't recall ever leaving a closet.
You obviously never went to Narnia.
lulz
How's it going with your mum et al?
Quote from: karadan on July 08, 2011, 03:04:14 PM
You obviously never went to Narnia.
If I was a Narnian I'd have nailed that wardrobe shut (Is it a wardrobe on the Narnia side?)
Those children are just too good and proper, I expect the repressing of normal naughtiness will result in an eruption of pure evil eventually.
It is extremely intimidating to come out of closets. Even more so to climb into the attic, where something might be that you don't realize is there.
Very intriguing and exhilarating though. Many people mistake knick knacks for gold. gold for cobwebs. ;)