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People have told me that dating someone of the same major is a bad idea. I met this cute girl named Haley in my Resources Geology class and she seems pretty cool. I'm thinking of asking her out to lunch later. I intend on majoring in computer engineering. She's also doing engineering, but isn't sure what field to pursue. What do you guys think about dating in-major? Also, should I get to know her more before I ask for her number?

My wife and I met in class. We have the same Masters degree from the same program in the same department.

That advice is given more to avoid awkwardness in breakups, and if you really like her then it really shouldn't matter that if you breakup there will be some awkwardness.

Even if you do breakup, I imagine your department will be big enough for you not to be forced into awkward contact. I say go for it, you should have made a pole.

Quote from: "SSY"you should have made a pole.

What do you mean by that?

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Quote from: "SSY"you should have made a pole.

What do you mean by that?

You can make your thread a poll thread.  Where you ask a question and people can anonymously give you their answer ^_^

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Quote from: "SSY"you should have made a pole.

What do you mean by that?

You can make your thread a poll thread.  Where you ask a question and people can anonymously give you their answer ^_^

Oh, I thought he meant something else because he said "pole" rather than "poll."

I was confused at first but i figured he meant poll.  Thats the only thing that makes sense in context to me.

Damn you firefox, with your spell checker and open source goodness!

See, and here I thought it was just innuendo.  All of my best dates ended when the girl "made a pole."   Sounded like good advise to me.  

Btw, Arctonyx made probably the best response.  There's no issue with the dating, it's the breaking up that makes things weird sometimes.

It's not just the breaking up. Shit can get awkward before you even do anything. I know this because this guy in my class couldn't comprehend that I did not like him any more than a friend, and was living in false hope that some day I would change my mind. He was really clingy and angry and bitchy for a long ass time, but since he disowned me as a friend I haven't seen him so bleh. As long as neither of you are clingy and can handle rejection and stuff then go for it. If not, avoid like the plague. If you do go for it, good luck : D

Quote from: "iNow"Btw, Arctonyx made probably the best response.  There's no issue with the dating, it's the breaking up that makes things weird sometimes.

Trust me, I can relate.

Quote from: "Hat"It's not just the breaking up. Shit can get awkward before you even do anything. I know this because this guy in my class couldn't comprehend that I did not like him any more than a friend, and was living in false hope that some day I would change my mind. He was really clingy and angry and bitchy for a long ass time, but since he disowned me as a friend I haven't seen him so bleh. As long as neither of you are clingy and can handle rejection and stuff then go for it. If not, avoid like the plague. If you do go for it, good luck : D

Yeah I know a few of guys who do this, it's generally just a lack of knowledge about dating in general or just not knowing when no means no. It's just one of those little rules that if you ask someone out and they say no, that you drop the subject completely if you want any hope of a friendship (or even the remote possibility of dating) afterwards.

QuoteTrust me, I can relate.

Yeah, I think most people will have at least 1 story involving extreme awkwardness. They're never nice, but thankfully there are plenty of people who have gone through similar situations, so it's never really one of those problems were you feel alone.

I just got Haley's number! I'm gonna ask her out to dinner tonight and see if she wants to go to a party with me.

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Quote from: "SSY"Even if you do breakup, I imagine your department will be big enough for you not to be forced into awkward contact. I say go for it, you should have made a pole.

I agree...if you were in architecture (where you see everyone in your major every day and are in close quarters) I would say it would be something to avoid.  I did date a guy in my same major.  We were high school sweethearts and he decided to go into architecture too after realizing he didn't want to do engineer stuff for the rest of his life.  It was a horrible breakup so much that it affected my ability to do my school work.  So, ya, no issues as long as you won't have to work around the person every day if you break in a bad way.

Really, for most people, dating in your major is no different than dating in high school.  You might have a class or two with the person but basically don't have to interact at all.

Quote from: "Hat"It's not just the breaking up. Shit can get awkward before you even do anything. I know this because this guy in my class couldn't comprehend that I did not like him any more than a friend, and was living in false hope that some day I would change my mind.

, what is with guys like that?  Maybe I just attract the weirdos but I've had 3 guys do that to me.  One even tracked down my dad's phone number by calling every number in the phone book with my last name after graduation just to see if I was single yet (I had used the I have a boyfriend excuse).  I had another guy that wouldn't take no for an answer and I had to be mean and tell him I wasn't attracted to him....he messaged me on yahoo a few months ago (married now) and was still thinking he wished he could go on a date with me.  The other guy was just a weird person at church (back when I use to go) who kept hitting on me and wasn't good at taking hints, he quit after I started dating someone that I brought with me to church.  Ah...creepy memories.