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Alright so I'm a shy guy but I met a girl named Sydney last year and I've pretty much had a crush on her ever since I first met her. However, I could never grow a pair of balls to tell her I like her or to ask her out. Now that it's my senior year and prom is coming up, I feel that this is my only chance and I want to ask her out to the prom, but I don't know if she would be interested in me at all. I happen to know her best friend, Megan, since we kind of talk a lot each day and I'll probably try to get some input from her. I could use some advice from anyone on how to approach her and tell if she has any interest in me at all. Tickets for the prom at my school sell from May 26th to May 28th and the prom itself is on June 5th. The best time to talk to Sydney would probably be next Wednesday at a Science Honor Society Meeting. Also on May 29th, I am headed off to Busch Gardens with other people from the Science Honor Society and I'll get to hang out with Megan and Sydney.

Fortune favors the bold, Godless. I've been there, I know how difficult it can be to gather the fortitude and talk to a serious crush, but it's so worth it. Be assertive, confident, but still Godless. Maybe you don't have to just walk up and ask her to the prom, but there's nothing stopping you from asking her to lunch or to go see a movie (or whatever the kids do these days). Give her the chance to get to know you.

I don't really have any tips for you, other than just do what you feel you should do, don't be forceful, be yourself. Just be that person that she wants to be around by making her laugh and smile. You'll regret not trying.

I would chicken out at the last minute, not ask her, then spend the rest of my life in a downward spiral of lonelyness and regret, forever hoping a chance to redeem myself will present itself, all the while knowing, that even if it did, I would fail again.

Or you could ask her out. School ends soon, so even if she says no, then its not exactly a problem.

As a former teenage girl, I am going to say ASK HER! Girls can be so intimidating and we don't mean to be. (Most of the time) Not that I was such hot stuff in high school, but a guy friend told me a couple years ago that he always wanted to ask me out in high school and was too nervous. I would have totally gone out with him. And if you are already friends with the same group of people, you at least have others to hang out with during prom to make it a little less awkward.

Oh and...let us know how it goes.

If you have the type of personality that can get along with her best friend then I would assume you are probably a good match for the girl you like.  Ask as soon as you find an appropriate time otherwise she might fear being dateless for the senior prom and settle for someone not as great as you are.  

I'm going to talk to Megan first and tell her that I like Sydney to see her reaction and ask her questions on how I should approach her. But before that, I'm going to ask if Sydney is actually going to prom with another guy (I hope not).

Last year in my junior year, Sydney was in three of my classes, but none this year so I barely get to see her and talk to her now. The only time I ever see her is occasionally in the hall or at Science Honor Society meetings.

Quote from: "Godless"I'm going to talk to Megan first and tell her that I like Sydney to see her reaction and ask her questions on how I should approach her. But before that, I'm going to ask if Sydney is actually going to prom with another guy (I hope not).

Last year in my junior year, Sydney was in three of my classes, but none this year so I barely get to see her and talk to her now. The only time I ever see her is occasionally in the hall or at Science Honor Society meetings.

Science Honor Society? Geek girls, ftw. Hope it goes well.  

I hope your friend Megan doesn't secretly have the hots for you and is herself wishing you'd ask her to the prom. That would open a whole can of worms.

Quote from: "curiosityandthecat"Science Honor Society? Geek girls, ftw. Hope it goes well.  

I caught that too! The happiest relationships I've ever been in were with "geeks." But that probably says more about my personality than anything else.

I think you should leave Megan out of it, just because of the same reasons Karadan mentioned. Just go up to the girl you like and just straight ask her if she would like to go to the prom with you. Keep it short and sweet, when she says yes just say "Thats cool. Looking forward to it" and then walk away. Try not to show her how amazingly happy you are that she says yes. This way, she gets the mystery of what you're really thinking. Girls love mystery.

My 2cents

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Quote from: "curiosityandthecat"Science Honor Society? Geek girls, ftw. Hope it goes well.  :P

I love a cute geeky guy who gets flustered while asking a girl out.  Those who play it cool leave me feeling, well, cold.  Just be yourself.

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Quote from: "curiosityandthecat"Science Honor Society? Geek girls, ftw. Hope it goes well.  :P

I love a cute geeky guy who gets flustered while asking a girl out.  Those who play it cool leave me feeling, well, cold.  Just be yourself.

Well there you have it!  

Quote from: "Godless"I'm going to talk to Megan first and tell her that I like Sydney to see her reaction and ask her questions on how I should approach her. But before that, I'm going to ask if Sydney is actually going to prom with another guy (I hope not).

Last year in my junior year, Sydney was in three of my classes, but none this year so I barely get to see her and talk to her now. The only time I ever see her is occasionally in the hall or at Science Honor Society meetings.

Asking her friend about it first is about the same as passing a note that says "do you like me?  check yes or no."  After all, Megan will tell Sydney that you like her before you get a chance.  (She'll probably tell even if she promises not to...the only difference is then she'll make Sydney swear to pretend like she doesn't know).  Plus, as already mentioned, Megan may have a crush on you and you don't want to hurt her feelings by being so disinterested that you use her to find out about another girl.

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Quote from: "curiosityandthecat"Science Honor Society? Geek girls, ftw. Hope it goes well.  :P

I love a cute geeky guy who gets flustered while asking a girl out.  Those who play it cool leave me feeling, well, cold.  Just be yourself.

I agree..when I was asked out by guys that seemed disinterested it made me equally as disinterested in them.  It didn't ruin how the date would turn out, but it definitely made me more cautious about expressing my own emotions.   If you are happy let it show...the whole idea of hiding emotions will probably only work on the shallow girls who want someone who is "cool."  Playing it cool is also just a defense mechanism against being embarrassed if the girl says no....being yourself is much more daring   That said...there is a line you can cross where you are too happy and it comes off as creepy...but I don't think any normal person would be able to cross the creepy line without trying (I have unfortunately dated a couple weirdos).

Well, I think anyone can inadvertently cross over the "creep" line. Or maybe I'm a creep for thinking it's easy?  

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Quote from: "curiosityandthecat"Science Honor Society? Geek girls, ftw. Hope it goes well.  

I caught that too! The happiest relationships I've ever been in were with "geeks." But that probably says more about my personality than anything else.

I think you should leave Megan out of it, just because of the same reasons Karadan mentioned. Just go up to the girl you like and just straight ask her if she would like to go to the prom with you. Keep it short and sweet, when she says yes just say "Thats cool. Looking forward to it" and then walk away. Try not to show her how amazingly happy you are that she says yes. This way, she gets the mystery of what you're really thinking. Girls love mystery.

My 2cents

Well it's kinda too late now since I told Megan about my crush on Sydney today. She actually encouraged me to ask Sydney out to the prom and that I should get a rose for when I ask her. If she says yes should I just ask for her number right away? Also just wondering, how much does it cost to rent a decent looking outfit that would be suitable?

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Quote from: "curiosityandthecat"Science Honor Society? Geek girls, ftw. Hope it goes well.  

I caught that too! The happiest relationships I've ever been in were with "geeks." But that probably says more about my personality than anything else.

I think you should leave Megan out of it, just because of the same reasons Karadan mentioned. Just go up to the girl you like and just straight ask her if she would like to go to the prom with you. Keep it short and sweet, when she says yes just say "Thats cool. Looking forward to it" and then walk away. Try not to show her how amazingly happy you are that she says yes. This way, she gets the mystery of what you're really thinking. Girls love mystery.

My 2cents

Well it's kinda too late now since I told Megan about my crush on Sydney today. She actually encouraged me to ask Sydney out to the prom and that I should get a rose for when I ask her. If she says yes should I just ask for her number right away? Also just wondering, how much does it cost to rent a decent looking outfit that would be suitable?

Yes! And good luck! I'm sure the two of you will have a good time!

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Quote from: "curiosityandthecat"Science Honor Society? Geek girls, ftw. Hope it goes well.  

I caught that too! The happiest relationships I've ever been in were with "geeks." But that probably says more about my personality than anything else.

I think you should leave Megan out of it, just because of the same reasons Karadan mentioned. Just go up to the girl you like and just straight ask her if she would like to go to the prom with you. Keep it short and sweet, when she says yes just say "Thats cool. Looking forward to it" and then walk away. Try not to show her how amazingly happy you are that she says yes. This way, she gets the mystery of what you're really thinking. Girls love mystery.

My 2cents

Well it's kinda too late now since I told Megan about my crush on Sydney today. She actually encouraged me to ask Sydney out to the prom and that I should get a rose for when I ask her. If she says yes should I just ask for her number right away? Also just wondering, how much does it cost to rent a decent looking outfit that would be suitable?

Standard tux rentals shouldn't too expensive.  Just pick up a phone book and start calling around to get the general idea of what a rental may set you back.  If the rental shops where you live are anything like they are where I live, then they tend to prepare for prom/graduation/other regularly scheduled dress up event.  So you shouldn't have a problem finding something that looks nice.  FYI, rental places tend to sell the suits that they've had for awhile.  You may be able to pick up a fairly nice looking tux and have it fitted to you for about the same price that you'd rent one.  I needed some fancy dress clothes once and spent less than fifty buck to get a tux that was taken in to fit pretty well.

Oh yeah one other thing... I've never really danced in my life before so what am I to do about that? I'm just going to end up embarrassing myself since I have no idea how to dance.

You should wear a tux.  I think you can get a decent looking tux with shoes etc for around 150 (probably less).  If possible, try to borrow a cool car (but,that can be pretty hard to do in high school though).

Quote from: "Godless"Oh yeah one other thing... I've never really danced in my life before so what am I to do about that? I'm just going to end up embarrassing myself since I have no idea how to dance.

I'm sure most of the other kids have never danced either...don't worry about it.  Only dance to the slow songs and try not to step on her feet.

Ok wow, turns out that I have to ask Sydney TOMORROW. This is because Megan told me I need to do it this week because of limo arrangements. She's going to tell Sydney to go to Spartan Park, the area in front of our school, where I'm going to ask her. I got my rose ready for tomorrow and it's sitting in the fridge right now. I'M GETTING NERVOUS!

You see what you're doing?

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Quote from: "Godless"Ok wow, turns out that I have to ask Sydney TOMORROW. This is because Megan told me I need to do it this week because of limo arrangements. She's going to tell Sydney to go to Spartan Park, the area in front of our school, where I'm going to ask her. I got my rose ready for tomorrow and it's sitting in the fridge right now. I'M GETTING NERVOUS!

There is no prom law that states you must hire a limo.  Take a deep breath and spend some time with the object of your affection before you ask her to prom.  I wouldn't have gone to prom with a guy I hadn't dated first (but that's just me).

Either way, I wish you a positive outcome.  

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Quote from: "Godless"Ok wow, turns out that I have to ask Sydney TOMORROW. This is because Megan told me I need to do it this week because of limo arrangements. She's going to tell Sydney to go to Spartan Park, the area in front of our school, where I'm going to ask her. I got my rose ready for tomorrow and it's sitting in the fridge right now. I'M GETTING NERVOUS!

There is no prom law that states you must hire a limo.  Take a deep breath and spend some time with the object of your affection before you ask her to prom.  I wouldn't have gone to prom with a guy I hadn't dated first (but that's just me).

Either way, I wish you a positive outcome.  

Hey, I didn't date my the young woman I took to the prom (or I guess she took me to her prom).  Though I did wind up marrying her almost a decade later.

Well, if she says yes then I do want to spend some quality time with her. I'm going to ask her out to the movies this weekend. Plus, I'm headed off with her to Busch Gardens next Friday for Science Honor Society.

Quote from: "MommaSquid"There is no prom law that states you must hire a limo.  

I went to one prom in a Ford Pinto and the other in a Dodge Neon.  I agree that you don't need a limo.  If it was set up like the proms I went to no one will see what you rode in anyway.  So, if you can afford one...cool...if not...cool.  It's not a big deal.  Personally, I'd spend the money on a nice dinner instead of a limo if I were going to spend a lot of money.

Woot! Sydney said yes!  :banna:

Goddamn I was so nervous an anxious the entire day, especially during my 6th and 7th period classes. When I walked up to the bench area my heart was racing, even more so when I saw her walking up the steps.

When I asked her and gave her the flowers she said "Awww..." and smiled at me. That brought a huge wave of relief. Plus, I got her number and asked her out to the movies this weekend. She said she'd have to check her schedule, but that she'd most likely be able to go.

Quote from: "Godless"Woot! Sydney said yes!  :banna:

See, you had nothing to be nervous about.

Quote from: "Godless"Woot! Sydney said yes!  :banna:

Goddamn I was so nervous an anxious the entire day, especially during my 6th and 7th period classes. When I walked up to the bench area my heart was racing, even more so when I saw her walking up the steps.

When I asked her and gave her the flowers she said "Awww..." and smiled at me. That brought a huge wave of relief. Plus, I got her number and asked her out to the movies this weekend. She said she'd have to check her schedule, but that she'd most likely be able to go.

CONGRATS!

INTERNET HIGH FIVE!

Right on my man!
Are you going to take her to see Terminator?

Quote from: "Godless"Woot! Sydney said yes!

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For my proms, I rented the tuxes at Kohl's ( or maybe it was Goody's? ).  It was around $150 for the whole thing, maybe less.  I found smaller businesses to have worse prices and service, but your mileage may vary.

Limos are EXPENSIVE to rent.  E-X-P-E-N-S-I-V-E.  I think my friends paid almost $1,000 for the night.  It was between 4 couples, though, so the price was a little easier to manage.  I just went in my dad's Ford Expedition...  didn't stop me from enjoying the night  

As far as dancing is concerned, most of the music they'll play will probably be electronica or hip hop...  And dancing to that is fairly easy.  Just listen to the bass drum, and move in time with it.  There's really nothing wrong with looking foolish, everyone will, and, if anything, it'll be endearing to your date that you're trying.  Laughing at yourself helps, if you don't do it too much.

Quote from: "BadPoison"Right on my man!
Are you going to take her to see Terminator?

I think she's interested in seeing Angels & Demons, so I'll probably take her to see that.

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Quote from: "BadPoison"Right on my man!
Are you going to take her to see Terminator?

I think she's interested in seeing Angels & Demons, so I'll probably take her to see that.

Does she know you're a non-believer?  If not...I suggest avoiding the religion topic till after the prom.

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Quote from: "BadPoison"Right on my man!
Are you going to take her to see Terminator?

I think she's interested in seeing Angels & Demons, so I'll probably take her to see that.

Does she know you're a non-believer?  If not...I suggest avoiding the religion topic till after the prom.

I'm not really sure if she cares since I never hear her talk about religion.

Besides, I say I'm an atheist on my facebook so she could just look at it and find out anyway...

Quote from: "Godless"Besides, I say I'm an atheist on my facebook so she could just look at it and find out anyway...

Ah, in that case, she might already know.

Sydney says she'll go see a movie with me on Sunday She says she'll watch any movie and that it doesn't matter to her. What movie do you guys think I should take her to? I did talk to Megan about what movies she wanted to watch and I remember her saying that Sydney wanted to see Angels and Demons.

Quote from: "Godless"Sydney says she'll go see a movie with me on Sunday She says she'll watch any movie and that it doesn't matter to her. What movie do you guys think I should take her to? I did talk to Megan about what movies she wanted to watch and I remember her saying that Sydney wanted to see Angels and Demons.

Then go see Angels and Demons. If she says she'll see whatever you want she must think you're fun to hang out with.

Quote from: "BadPoison"Then go see Angels and Demons. If she says she'll see whatever you want she must think you're fun to hang out with.

Or since he is paying (?) she doesn't want to be the one deciding what the money is spent on.

A little late, but congratulations, Godless. You've done much better than I did in high school.  :lol:

Hey, do you guys have any further advice for me when I take her out tomorrow? My cousin told me to put up the arm rest, sit down first, and put my arm across the back of her seat so it can be around her. I dunno about that though... would it make her feel uncomfortable?

Quote from: "Godless"Hey, do you guys have any further advice for me when I take her out tomorrow? My cousin told me to put up the arm rest, sit down first, and put my arm across the back of her seat so it can be around her. I dunno about that though... would it make her feel uncomfortable?

When I was in high school the operable arm rest was a novelty so we alway put it up if we were at a theater which had them.  

You could pull the old yawn routine to get your arm on the back of her seat lol...that is so not obvious  

Anyway, if you do something that makes her feel uncomfortable you should be able to tell by her body signals.

Haha, easy for you to say, Whitney. If I had a quarter for every time I misinterpreted a woman's body language...  

Quote from: "SektionTen"Haha, easy for you to say, Whitney. If I had a quarter for every time I misinterpreted a woman's body language...  

I always tried to be obvious about it...I would also just bluntly say; stop, I don't want you to do that.  I think the mixed body language comes from when her 'body' wants to do something but her mind tells her it is not a good idea.

Btw, men don't have to make the first move these days.

Quote from: "Godless"Woot! Sydney said yes!

super fantastic

I just got back from the movies with Sydney. She actually met me there since she said she had an appointment before the movie. I thought it went pretty decently since we talked some and I feel more comfortable being around her now. I didn't get to drive her home since she said she was going to meet her dad at Paneras across the street, which disappointed me a bit.

She said she had an appointment on a Sunday?  Hmmm.  Maybe Sydney just prefers to be in charge of her own arrival and exit strategies when dating someone new...which is pretty smart.  I wouldn't hold it against her.

Do you have another date planned before prom?

Quote from: "Godless"She actually met me there since she said she had an appointment before the movie.

Maybe she went to church and called it an appointment since she knows you're not religious?

Quote from: "MommaSquid"She said she had an appointment on a Sunday?  Hmmm.  Maybe Sydney just prefers to be in charge of her own arrival and exit strategies when dating someone new...which is pretty smart.  I wouldn't hold it against her.

Do you have another date planned before prom?

Well, I'm going to Busch Gardens with her on Friday for Science Honor Society... does that count? I may ask her out again next weekend though.

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Quote from: "Godless"She actually met me there since she said she had an appointment before the movie.

Maybe she went to church and called it an appointment since she knows you're not religious?

I dunno... Although she did wear short shorts and flip flops... is that normal to wear to church?  ;)

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Quote from: "MommaSquid"Do you have another date planned before prom?

Well, I'm going to Busch Gardens with her on Friday for Science Honor Society... does that count? I may ask her out again next weekend though.

Group dates count as a date, but try to get a minute alone with her to talk.  Girls love positive feedback on their last date, so say something nice about that.  Don't forget to breathe and smile.  

Also, if she really did go to church before seeing a movie with me, I don't see why she would need to lie about it since I don't care. I'm a very tolerant and liberal person and so is she. Besides, I think she's Episcopalian, one of the fairly liberal Christian sects.

One other thing: on Friday, how do I know if she wants to sit with me or her friends on the bus to Busch Gardens?

Quote from: "Godless"One other thing: on Friday, how do I know if she wants to sit with me or her friends on the bus to Busch Gardens?

Ask her.

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Quote from: "Godless"One other thing: on Friday, how do I know if she wants to sit with me or her friends on the bus to Busch Gardens?

Ask her.

Yes, ask her!  Or tell her you'll save her a seat.  People always save the seat right next to them!  (Gee, giving dating advice is fun!)

Damn I just found out that she's unable to go to Busch Gardens. Our school has something called the Capstone Project, which is a community service project and the best projects from each government class goes on to a schoolwide competition. Sydney's project was chosen and the competition is on the same day as our Busch Gardens trip so she can't go... I'm really sad and disappointed right now. Megan may not even go since she says she needs to practice a big song in orchestra.    I was really looking forward to spending the entire day with her on Friday so this really sucks... I don't really feel like going now... I guess I'll make up for it by asking her out again this weekend?

Hey, can you guys also give me some advice on how to joke and flirt with her? I want to make her laugh but I'm not known to be that much of a joker and I've never really flirted before. I appreciate everyone's advice and input so far!

Sorry to hear that Busch Gardens is a no-go.

Quote from: "Godless"Hey, can you guys also give me some advice on how to joke and flirt with her? I want to make her laugh but I'm not known to be that much of a joker and I've never really flirted before. I appreciate everyone's advice and input so far!

Godless, just be yourself.   Be polite and attentive to your date.  Throw out a compliment or two.  Try not to be nervous.  (Okay, that last one's easier said than done.  No one said dating was easy!)  You'll do just fine.

Quote from: "MommaSquid"Sorry to hear that Busch Gardens is a no-go.

Quote from: "Godless"Hey, can you guys also give me some advice on how to joke and flirt with her? I want to make her laugh but I'm not known to be that much of a joker and I've never really flirted before. I appreciate everyone's advice and input so far!

Godless, just be yourself.   Be polite and attentive to your date.  Throw out a compliment or two.  Try not to be nervous.  (Okay, that last one's easier said than done.  No one said dating was easy!)  You'll do just fine.

^ditto.

You can't force jokes, flirting, etc...you just be yourself.  Just don't do this ---> roflol  or this--->  while on the date and you'll be ok.

Oh, if you go out to eat (like a nice restaurant) don't order anything that makes a mess.  

Avoid soups and spaghetti until you get over being nervous when you're out on a date with you lady friend.

Also, pay attention when you say or do something that might be funny.  If she's got a mouth full of food or is in the act of taking a drink, don't try to see how far you can get her to shoot food out of her nose.  You shouldn't try for any distance records until you've been together a few years.  

Agreed. Order the grilled salmon. Give her first crack at everything. Don't talk with your mouth full. Don't stare at her mouth while she's eating. Let her order first. Don't order anything with garlic or onions unless she does the same (they have to cancel each other out).  Talk about her. Ask about DHA: her dreams, hopes and aspirations. Pay, but don't make a scene about it, and don't give her the option. Let her argue afterward, to which you jokingly suggest that she pays next time (sets up another date). Second date, still pay.

Above all else, enjoy.

QuoteLet her argue afterward, to which you jokingly suggest that she pays next time (sets up another date)

Oh, oh oh!.. That is smoooooooth!

Quote from: "Jolly Sapper"You shouldn't try for any distance records until you've been together a few years.  :headbang:
Just have fun, and remember that she's there to have fun too. As long as you just relaxe and have a good time, she will probably have a good time too.

And, for God's sake, man, whatever you do... be safe.  

This is so sweet!  I feel like I've stumbled into the boy's locker room, listening to the seniors giving a freshman advice.  LOL!   :cool:

The biggest thing I'd say is the not forcing jokes issue.  It's rarely endearing to see a boy trying so hard to make an impression and it could embarrass her.  And if the jokes are extremely horrible, it could turn her off.  

Just be calmly you... not the "OH MY GAWD I'M OUT WITH SYDNEY" you.  If she sees something in you she likes, sweet!  If not, you'll know fairly quickly and can nurse your broken heart before trying again.  Don't put TOO much hope in anything "working out"... just go out with her to have fun, hang with a pretty and fun girl, and waste a few hours of your life being young.  You don't get a chance to do that when you get all old and decrepit.  

Did you get a date with her??

Quote from: "rlrose328"This is so sweet!  I feel like I've stumbled into the boy's locker room, listening to the seniors giving a freshman advice.  LOL!   :cool:

The biggest thing I'd say is the not forcing jokes issue.  It's rarely endearing to see a boy trying so hard to make an impression and it could embarrass her.  And if the jokes are extremely horrible, it could turn her off.  

Just be calmly you... not the "OH MY GAWD I'M OUT WITH SYDNEY" you.  If she sees something in you she likes, sweet!  If not, you'll know fairly quickly and can nurse your broken heart before trying again.  Don't put TOO much hope in anything "working out"... just go out with her to have fun, hang with a pretty and fun girl, and waste a few hours of your life being young.  You don't get a chance to do that when you get all old and decrepit.   :(  Although I'm not sure who's going on the trip so I'll have to see since 50-60 people are going.

High school love is so adorable.  

Quote from: "Godless"Well, I asked if she wanted to see another movie this weekend, but unfortunately she said her brother is having a birthday party on Saturday and she's going to a softball party on Sunday. She admitted that she didn't really want to go to the softball party since she doesn't like her coach. Oh well, there's the weekend after prom, which is next Friday. I'm not sure how she's going to feel dancing face to face with me since we're not that close yet. But still, I'm really sad and disappointed about tomorrow since I was really looking forward to spending the entire day with her. I don't even feel like going to Busch Gardens now. I'm just going to sit on roller coasters by myself staring at the empty seat next to me wishing that Sydney was there. And as I've said, Megan can't come either so I don't really have anyone to hang out with tomorrow  :bounce:

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Quote from: "Godless"Well, I asked if she wanted to see another movie this weekend, but unfortunately she said her brother is having a birthday party on Saturday and she's going to a softball party on Sunday. She admitted that she didn't really want to go to the softball party since she doesn't like her coach. Oh well, there's the weekend after prom, which is next Friday. I'm not sure how she's going to feel dancing face to face with me since we're not that close yet. But still, I'm really sad and disappointed about tomorrow since I was really looking forward to spending the entire day with her. I don't even feel like going to Busch Gardens now. I'm just going to sit on roller coasters by myself staring at the empty seat next to me wishing that Sydney was there. And as I've said, Megan can't come either so I don't really have anyone to hang out with tomorrow  :bounce:

When I was at Busch Gardens yesterday I kinda hung out with two nerdy dudes from my computer science class since none of my other friends wanted to come. The rides were fun and all but I was still wishing that Sydney was there most of the time.

Also, I don't know how she would feel dancing so close to me at the prom when we're not that close yet.

Quote from: "Godless"Also, I don't know how she would feel dancing so close to me at the prom when we're not that close yet.

They will probably have a rule about dancing closely at the prom anyway...mine did.

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Quote from: "Godless"Also, I don't know how she would feel dancing so close to me at the prom when we're not that close yet.

They will probably have a rule about dancing closely at the prom anyway...mine did.

I don't think they do, but I'd have to check.

One other question: how do I know if Sydney actually likes me back or if she's into me at all?

Quote from: "Godless"One other question: how do I know if Sydney actually likes me back or if she's into me at all?

Because girls tend not to go to the prom with guys they aren't into.

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Quote from: "Godless"One other question: how do I know if Sydney actually likes me back or if she's into me at all?

Because girls tend not to go to the prom with guys they aren't into.

I would agree.

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Quote from: "Godless"Also, I don't know how she would feel dancing so close to me at the prom when we're not that close yet.

They will probably have a rule about dancing closely at the prom anyway...mine did.

Leave some room for Jesus between you when you dance.    

In other words, don't grab the poor girl and smash her body with yours.  Position yourself like this:

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And have plenty of breath mints on hand...just in case.

Quote from: "MommaSquid"Leave some room for Jesus between you when you dance.    

In other words, don't grab the poor girl and smash her body with yours.  Position yourself like this:

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Remember:  Classy, not trashy.

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Quote from: "MommaSquid"Leave some room for Jesus between you when you dance.    

In other words, don't grab the poor girl and smash her body with yours.  Position yourself like this:

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Remember:  Classy, not trashy.

I asked my cousin about that position for slow dances and she says it's a bit too formal. She recommends that I put my hands on her hips and she puts hers on my shoulders. As for fast dances, I'm kinda clueless right now.

I found out that my prom group is going out to a place called "Bilbo Baggins" for dinner before the prom. I took a look at the website and I think it's a pub... I really have no idea why our group chose that place since we can't drink anyway. I was actually hoping for a fancier restaurant.

I wouldn't worry too much about the dancing thing, or where to put your hands. Just follow her lead, if she wants to slow dance by just swaying to the side, do that, if she wants to dance goofy to a rock song then just cut up and have fun (don't worry about how you look to your friends, as long as the two of you have fun cutting up) and if she wants to dance freaky, well then... :cool:

Man, I've been coughing a lot the past couple of days. I really hope it gets better by tomorrow since that's when my prom is and I don't wanna cough in Sydney's face when I'm dancing with her. My throat has also been feeling really dry too even though I've been drinking a lot of water.

Quote from: "Godless"Man, I've been coughing a lot the past couple of days. I really hope it gets better by tomorrow since that's when my prom is and I don't wanna cough in Sydney's face when I'm dancing with her. My throat has also been feeling really dry too even though I've been drinking a lot of water.

High levels of stress can lessen your immune system's effectiveness. Do you think this could be part of the problem?

Quote from: "Godless"Man, I've been coughing a lot the past couple of days. I really hope it gets better by tomorrow since that's when my prom is and I don't wanna cough in Sydney's face when I'm dancing with her. My throat has also been feeling really dry too even though I've been drinking a lot of water.

Get lots of rest tonight and take some OTC cough medicine.  Honey and lemon are pretty good natural remedies too if you need to take something to calm the cough tomorrow night and react unfavorably to cough medicine.  I also suggest putting some cough drops in your pocket...select some that don't smell like medicine.

I thought prom went pretty well. You can find my prom pics on my facebook profile if you wanna look: http://www.facebook.com/s.php?init=q&q= ... 0&ref=name (http://www.facebook.com/s.php?init=q&q=jodi%20yim&ref=ts&sid=cbb094e737ee242ddd6b704f106e6940#/profile.php?id=1805582730&ref=name)

Ah, memories. All of you look great! Looks like you had a good time, too, for sure. You and Sidney have any other plans before school's out?

I hope you all had a great time.  

Now I wish my husband's school had a prom so we could chaperone...I like excuses to dress up.

Quote from: "Godless"I thought prom went pretty well. You can find my prom pics on my facebook profile if you wanna look: http://www.facebook.com/s.php?init=q&q= ... 0&ref=name (http://www.facebook.com/s.php?init=q&q=jodi%20yim&ref=ts&sid=cbb094e737ee242ddd6b704f106e6940#/profile.php?id=1805582730&ref=name)

You looked very handsome in your tux, Godless.  I hope you and your friends had a nice evening.

Quote from: "Whitney"I hope you all had a great time.
Now I wish my husband's school had a prom so we could chaperone...I like excuses to dress up.

You mean you don't vacuum in your pearls and evening gown?  

Quote from: "curiosityandthecat"Ah, memories. All of you look great! Looks like you had a good time, too, for sure. You and Sidney have any other plans before school's out?

I wanna go out with her next weeekend. Apparently she also likes movies such as The Hangover since she said she just saw it. On Thursday, my school is having a senior picnic and on graduation day, there's an all night graduation party as well so there are some more chances to hangout with her. I would like to keep doing stuff with her over the summer though.

Alright, so Sydney told me a couple of days ago that her cell phone is kinda messed up so I can't really call her and I forgot to ask for her house number. However, I think I found her house number on the Yellow Pages. Would it be creepy if I called her even though she didn't actually tell me her house number?

Quote from: "Godless"Alright, so Sydney told me a couple of days ago that her cell phone is kinda messed up so I can't really call her and I forgot to ask for her house number. However, I think I found her house number on the Yellow Pages. Would it be creepy if I called her even though she didn't actually tell me her house number?

Yes, it would be very creepy...I had a guy do that with me.  He ended up calling half of my relatives before finding my dad's place.  Since you have been on a date with her, it wouldn't be as creepy as with the guy who called me...but still odd.

Just try her cell phone.  If it is only kinda messed up then it might work or you can at least leave a message which she will get when her cell phone is fixed.

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Quote from: "Godless"Alright, so Sydney told me a couple of days ago that her cell phone is kinda messed up so I can't really call her and I forgot to ask for her house number. However, I think I found her house number on the Yellow Pages. Would it be creepy if I called her even though she didn't actually tell me her house number?

Yes, it would be very creepy...I had a guy do that with me.  He ended up calling half of my relatives before finding my dad's place.  Since you have been on a date with her, it wouldn't be as creepy as with the guy who called me...but still odd.

Just try her cell phone.  If it is only kinda messed up then it might work or you can at least leave a message which she will get when her cell phone is fixed.

Well I may see her at my graduation party this Sunday and she told me she's replacing her old iPhone with the 3G one, but I kinda want to do something with her some time sooner though. I asked Megan and she doesn't know her home phone either.

Damn, she couldn't come to my graduation party since she was at the orientation for her college. I kinda found that out at the last minute when Megan told me. Megan also told me that Sydney just got a new phone on Friday so I really hope she picks up when I call her this week...

Quote from: "Godless"Damn, she couldn't come to my graduation party since she was at the orientation for her college. I kinda found that out at the last minute when Megan told me. Megan also told me that Sydney just got a new phone on Friday so I really hope she picks up when I call her this week...

Just be real careful that you're not "that guy."

You know, the one that appears to be annoyingly obsessed with bugging the girl he likes? Just be careful, or you could ruin your friendship. You may not think so now, but the friendship is more important than the romance. There will always be time for romance later.

Just my 2c
 

I think you should also kinda prepare yourself for the idea that she never had any intention of having a long term relationship right now.  She is apparently very focused on college since she went to a boring orientation instead of a party.  It will also be hard to maintain a friendship, let alone a romantic relationship, if you are not going to the same college.

In addition to the "that guy" advice (which is very good advice) make sure you don't only talk about Sydney to Megan...you'll end up annoying Megan to the point she doesn't want to be around you anymore (esp if Megan secretly likes you).  You know how the 'cool' guys on tv pretend they are not excited about the girl they like...try a bit of that (but not so much that you appear to be a heartless jerk).

I'm a little relieved because I tried calling her cell on my home phone and the same thing happens as when I call her on my cell phone so I don't think she's gotten a new cell phone yet, which means that she probably isn't actually ignoring me. One other thing, my friend has the school directory with everyone's home phone number... I got her home phone from the school directory... now would it be creepy if I called her house under that circumstance?

At some point you have to decide what would have to happen for you to move on. Maybe for you that means calling her home phone number and seeing what happens. Whitney brought up an excellent point that she is probably not looking for a serious relationship right now. She could be distancing herself so that the inevitable good-bye isn't as hard.

My advice: If you think you'll regret not calling her later on, or if you think calling her might help you move on then by all means. Just don't expect a phone call to change the very real fact that each of you are going separate directions. Don't be too sad about that either - it might sound cliche, but you'll be meeting so many new girls at college you'll have trouble sorting them all out.

Just do whatever you feel you have to do. I wish you the best of luck.

Quote from: "BadPoison"At some point you have to decide what would have to happen for you to move on. Maybe for you that means calling her home phone number and seeing what happens. Whitney brought up an excellent point that she is probably not looking for a serious relationship right now. She could be distancing herself so that the inevitable good-bye isn't as hard.

My advice: If you think you'll regret not calling her later on, or if you think calling her might help you move on then by all means. Just don't expect a phone call to change the very real fact that each of you are going separate directions. Don't be too sad about that either - it might sound cliche, but you'll be meeting so many new girls at college you'll have trouble sorting them all out.

Just do whatever you feel you have to do. I wish you the best of luck.

Sydney was pretty much the only girl I ever liked from my high school and I really don't want to give up that easily. I'll only give up if it's obvious that she doesn't like me or isn't into me. Besides, I've heard of people having long distance relationships in college and getting married later on with the same person. Yes, there are about ten times more people at Virginia Tech, my college, but that doesn't even mean I'll meet a tenth of those people and on top of that, I may not even find a girl that I like.

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Quote from: "BadPoison"At some point you have to decide what would have to happen for you to move on. Maybe for you that means calling her home phone number and seeing what happens. Whitney brought up an excellent point that she is probably not looking for a serious relationship right now. She could be distancing herself so that the inevitable good-bye isn't as hard.

My advice: If you think you'll regret not calling her later on, or if you think calling her might help you move on then by all means. Just don't expect a phone call to change the very real fact that each of you are going separate directions. Don't be too sad about that either - it might sound cliche, but you'll be meeting so many new girls at college you'll have trouble sorting them all out.

Just do whatever you feel you have to do. I wish you the best of luck. :lick:
In reality though, I had no idea what I wanted out of life, much less what I wanted out of a relationship. I was young and silly. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being young and silly - it's part of life - and for many of us, we never give it up  :cool:

Quote from: "BadPoison"You might not. You might.

When I had just turned 18 and graduated high school I met Alyssa. We dated for June and July that summer, and I thought I was having the time of my life (in fact, up to that point, I was having the time of my life.) She was a year behind me in school so she would be staying behind in August when I went off to University. I thought we would try a long distance relationship too. It only made sense, I loved her, she loved me.  :headbang:
To make an otherwise long and boring story short, I met tons of new people. I hung out with people that caused me to think about things in ways I never had before. Experiences change your perspective, and it wasn't long before I broke up with Alyssa. For me, she was too far away, and she wasn't experiencing who I was becoming. Trying to catch up on the weekends quickly became absurd, and it was unfair for us to hold each other back.


These days, I still don't know what I want - but now I realize that I don't quite know. The point is that life is an adventure. One day you think you know it all, the next day you discover something new and incredible. :D

Quote from: "Godless"Sydney was pretty much the only girl I ever liked from my high school and I really don't want to give up that easily. I'll only give up if it's obvious that she doesn't like me or isn't into me. Besides, I've heard of people having long distance relationships in college and getting married later on with the same person. Yes, there are about ten times more people at Virginia Tech, my college, but that doesn't even mean I'll meet a tenth of those people and on top of that, I may not even find a girl that I like.

Over the next 4 to 5 years you are probably going to change so much that anyone you like now will seem a horrible match down the road.  People who marry their highschool sweethearts are rare (esp when they hardly dated in high school) and those who manage a long distance relationship are rare too (esp when there was almost no relationship prior to the distance).

Call her house one time if it will make you feel better...leave a message.  Then if she doesn't return your phone call within a timely manner (like 3 days or less) assume she's not interested in a relationship and move on.

Personally, I think it sounds like she just isn't interested right now  (or is playing hard to get...which is such a stupid game...I have told any guys who try that that I won't go on another date with them even if I otherwise would have).  So, if I were you, I'd figure out a way to be disinterested as well.

And remember....college girls tend to be smart and goal oriented (high school kids tend to be immature and clueless...no offense..it's just part of being a kid); so you are going to have a much better selection in college.

I called Sydney earlier today and she finally answered! Now that I can actually reach her now I want to take her out to do something. I was going to ask her out to see Public Enemies, but she already saw it and she said there aren't really any other movies out right now that she wants to see. I'm not really sure what to take her out to do... any suggestions?

Quote from: "Godless"I called Sydney earlier today and she finally answered! Now that I can actually reach her now I want to take her out to do something. I was going to ask her out to see Public Enemies, but she already saw it and she said there aren't really any other movies out right now that she wants to see. I'm not really sure what to take her out to do... any suggestions?

Picnic. Get some take-out and go to the park!

I'm one of the weirdos who married her high school sweetheart and dated him two years long-distance.  We're going on 8 years of marriage this month (and 12 years together come September).  So it can happen.  We've both changed a lot since high school, but luckily our changes complemented each other's.  

Hope it works out for you, Godless.

Quote from: "jrosebud"I'm one of the weirdos who married her high school sweetheart and dated him two years long-distance.  We're going on 8 years of marriage this month (and 12 years together come September).  So it can happen.  We've both changed a lot since high school, but luckily our changes complemented each other's.  

Hope it works out for you, Godless.

How was it like when you two were away for college?

Alright... I'm pretty certain that she's ignoring me because she doesn't answer any of my calls or texts anymore and she also doesn't respond to anything on Facebook. Damn this really sucks and I'm kinda sad  

Quote from: "Godless"Alright... I'm pretty certain that she's ignoring me because she doesn't answer any of my calls or texts anymore and she also doesn't respond to anything on Facebook. Damn this really sucks and I'm kinda sad  

I'm sorry things didn't turn out the way you had hoped.  (https://www.happyatheistforum.com/forum/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi89.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fk227%2FMommaSquid%2Fsmileys%2Fdigitalnarutosmiliehug.gif&hash=b509619ae07cc44ff4a65dd316aeac6d39010312)  Ah, young love heartbreak...it will pass.