What's on your mind today?

[karadan]

I'm wondering if, at first glance this morning when i came into work, whether a girl i like was;
a: pissed off
b: pissed off with me
c: not pissed off but somehow had a stormy face for some other reason
d: not pissed off at all and i'm just being paranoid...

Maybe she knows something i don't. Maybe she thinks i know something i shouldn't or is wondering if i know something i'm not supposed to know but can't decide whether i actually know anything or not. Maybe she knows i know something but doesn't want to show it and through the effort of not showing it, has actually shown that she knows i know something. Problem is, i don't know anything!

Damnit, i need coffee.

[SteveS]

Dude - relax.  This kind of socio-analysis is best done by those of the female persuasion!  For one, I just can't make my head work that way....

[jcm]

I don't like seeing people who ride in golf carts that have a gut so large that it rests on their lap like a bag of yard debris. Too many burgers there buddy? Ok, back to work...I'm a horrible person.

[Will]

I'm wondering if, at first glance this morning when i came into work, whether a girl i like was;
a: pissed off
b: pissed off with me
c: not pissed off but somehow had a stormy face for some other reason
d: not pissed off at all and i'm just being paranoid...

Maybe she knows something i don't. Maybe she thinks i know something i shouldn't or is wondering if i know something i'm not supposed to know but can't decide whether i actually know anything or not. Maybe she knows i know something but doesn't want to show it and through the effort of not showing it, has actually shown that she knows i know something. Problem is, i don't know anything!

Damnit, i need coffee.

Dude, go ask for her digits, take her out on a date, and then make her face look decidedly happier.

JCM, there's nothing wrong with pointing out that some people have weight issues that they refuse to directly address. The other day I was in line at the local Whole Foods with a cart full of fruits, veggies, and lean meats. Behind me was a dinosaur of a woman with 4â€"yes 4â€"gallons of ice cream. Rocky Road, fudge browny, strawberry, I think, and one of those odd Ben and Jerry's flavors. Nothing else. Just the ice cream. Like that may be her only source of nourishment. She was staring blankly into nothingness, like she was dreaming of the moment she got home and could get out her favorite spoon carved from a tree that was hit by lighting and get to eating the ice cream. I'm not looking down on her, but I am disappointed that someone could allow that to happen to themselves.

[jcm]

I'm not looking down on her, but I am disappointed that someone could allow that to happen to themselves.

Hahaha…what no balloons, no party favors, just the ice cream you say. From the sound of it, I don’t think you could look down on her. Holy Shit it’s Cloverfield!!!!

[rlrose328]

THe mystery of the tantrum kid has been somewhat solved.  We've got a differential diagnosis of bi-polar disorder.  Hopefully, on 5/28, well have a final diagnosis after the doctor has my husband in and complete the diagnostic tool with him (re: our son).  THen he'll talk to the kid himself again and let us know what he thinks.  It really puts so many things in perspective and answers a whole buttload of questions.  Makes sense, too, since I was diagnosed with BPD (then manic depression) 30 years ago.  Wonder why it took ME so long to see it?  I was saying "maybe he's bi-polar" for several months now and people would just kinda chuckle, but this last few weeks of over a dozen tantrums in so many days (and I'm talking MASSIVE meltdowns of epic proportions, most times from a bright smile to Damian-tantrum in mere seconds) got me on the phone and got him into a neuroscientist (PhD).  LOVE the doctor.  

I'm nothing if not relieved.  Grandma is horrified but she'll get over it (and pray about it, I'm sure).  Hubby is relieved as well.  At least this is something we can fix!  And it explains why no disciplinary method we tried came close to working.  

[MommaSquid]

^  Damn, Kerri, that's a lot for a little guy to handle.  At least he has a caring set of parents to help him through the process of medical tests, finding the right meds, etc.  Keep us posted.

[Will]

Your son is lucky to have such caring parents.

This may sound odd, but make sure that he enjoys a healthy lifestyle, eating his fruits, veggies and lean meats, getting all of his daily recommended vitamins and minerals (especially b12), getting plenty of exercise and has a regular sleep schedule. A friend of mine was manic for quite some time and she found that these things helped her even more than medication or therapy.

I also suggest avoiding electroconvulsive therapy. While this is a good last resort option for adults, it tends to be far too traumatic for children.

If his psychiatrist recommends medication, there's no harm in doing some research into the success rates and side effects before saying yes. Some antidepressants bring with them side effects that you may not want to risk.

Most of all, be sure that your friends here on HAF are ready to help out or provide a shoulder should you need it. If you have questions or just need to vent, please do so.

[SteveS]

Hey rlrose, I'm glad you got a diagnosis and can make sense of everything.  Best of luck to you and your family!

[Kylyssa]

I went to a free mental health counseling session today.  I'm working through lots of ptsd issues.  It turned out it was a religious organization.  I held my tongue and managed not to laugh bitterly when the sweet little woman told me to pray when I have flashbacks of a knife in my crotch.  I was polite and played along because I didn't want to hurt her feelings.  

Damn, this country needs socialized medicine!

[Asmodean]

Not much on my mind today really... Except the fact that, as of today, I'm officially on my way through mid-twenties and it kind of sucks... I like to consider myself young, but many of my friends of the same age have kids and families and... Oh well, I'd better stop before I depress myself further.

[MariaEvri]

Im thinking that it's about time I post in the introductions forum...

[Evolved]

Not much on my mind today really... Except the fact that, as of today, I'm officially on my way through mid-twenties and it kind of sucks... I like to consider myself young, but many of my friends of the same age have kids and families and... Oh well, I'd better stop before I depress myself further.

I think that you'd better stop before you depress some of the rest of us...you are not allowed to feel old until you are out of your twenties.

[Evolved]

Besides feeling older than Asmodean today, I am thinking about how it sucks that we are sometimes forced to work with whackadoodles.  I had a confrontation today with a really whacked whackadoodle.  We should have fired her before the end of her probationary period.

[Will]

Firing people is one of those tough things that happens when you become a manager. I remember the first time I had to fire someone. I was 17 at the time. I was devastated. Even though the individual deserved to be fired (possibly deserved to be in jail), I felt amazing pressure and maddening sympathy. I grew an important callus that day. It was one of the most difficult things I ever had to do, but it made me into a better leader.

I've been managing for 6 years now. Firing people still isn't easy.