In what ways have you dealt with militant atheists in the past? And how have you addressed the issue? Also, what kind of response did you receive from the militant atheists themselves?
At the end of the day, it's a matter of explaining that there are a lot more of them than there are us, so going balls to the wall all the time is a really bad idea from a strategic standpoint. Religious people create more atheists than other atheists (I liken this to the Empire in Star Wars often).
I often joke "there but for the grace of god go I" when referring to militants. There was a time in my transition that I could have been characterized as a silent militant.