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Teen Sex: The Holy vs Humanistic Approach
« on: August 05, 2010, 05:35:31 PM »
I'm not at the point of parenthood where this is applicable yet but I found this to be a very good article on the psychology behind the two approaches: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/evolution-the-self/201008/teen-sex-the-holy-vs-humanistic-approach-co-authored-david-niose
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Re: Teen Sex: The Holy vs Humanistic Approach
« Reply #1 on: August 05, 2010, 06:14:56 PM »
This is a great editorial.  I'm always mystified as to why people who are against pre-marital sex abhor sex education when comprehensive, science-based sex education is shown to increase the age at which people first have intercourse.

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Re: Teen Sex: The Holy vs Humanistic Approach
« Reply #2 on: August 05, 2010, 10:38:57 PM »
The page 404ed for me.
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Re: Teen Sex: The Holy vs Humanistic Approach
« Reply #3 on: August 05, 2010, 11:13:01 PM »
Me too.
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Re: Teen Sex: The Holy vs Humanistic Approach
« Reply #4 on: August 06, 2010, 06:39:23 AM »
Try again, it's working for me.

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My opinion is that pre-marital sex is okay as long as each partner has considered the ramifications of the action. I think that contraceptives need to be made more available to teens also, because if they're going to have sex, it might as well be safe.
I really don't see why there is such a stigma on pre-marital sex, disregarding religion's view of it as sin, there is nothing wrong with it.

Personally I'm still a virgin, I've had a few opportunities but it always seems, for lack of a better word, obligatory.
The women I've "had opportunities with" are so eager to jump into bed before they even know how they feel. People these days throw around the word love too carelessly. I can honestly say I do not feel love for more than a few people, and to them its more a form of loyalty than affection.

To hear them say they love me just seems like a mockery. I want to throw the words back at them, I've seen the same love professed for a previous boyfriend, but it always turns into hate eventually.

Sorry if I got off topic, I needed to get that out.

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Re: Teen Sex: The Holy vs Humanistic Approach
« Reply #5 on: August 06, 2010, 08:01:14 AM »
Got it now. Worth a read. Didn't say much I didn't already agree with but it was nice to see a well structured documentation of my thoughts seen through somebody else's eyes.
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Re: Teen Sex: The Holy vs Humanistic Approach
« Reply #6 on: August 06, 2010, 06:23:20 PM »
Marriage is a very far-off line to draw for when it's okay to have sex. Teens aren't going to stick to that, especially not today, when society is more impatient than ever.  So if you teach them abstinence is their only option, they don't know what to do other than just five up.  They'd rather just say "Fuck it!" and... Well... Fuck it.

This isn't that relevant, but I think it exemplifies the difference between the way humanists and theists try to teach people morals.

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