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Accomplice syndrome
« on: March 03, 2017, 02:00:26 PM »
Have you ever been used as the accomplice or excuse for another's excesses? Must have been someone's PhD project but can't find it.

Scenario 1: Fred liked to drink but felt a little bit guilty about gojing to the pub alone. He shared his house with John, an easy going type, and nagged, jokingly, until he got John to agree to go out for a drink. Thus it was not entirely his fault that they drank a bit more than was healthy.

Scenario 2: Sue really loved her food but was a bit guilty about her burgening waistline. However, she dropped hints with all her friends about going out for lunch. Then, when they, once or twice a month, suggested lunch she was a willing partner. Lots of friends = lots of lunches. But her bulging middle was their fault of course, she did not want to offend by turning the invites down.

Thought it was an aspect of Eric Berne's "See what you made me do now" in his 1973 book  "Games people play" but it's not quite the same.

Anyone else met this phenomena?
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Re: Accomplice syndrome
« Reply #1 on: March 03, 2017, 02:06:14 PM »
Yes but not as black and white as those examples. My step mom lost her mirror once and blamed me for stealing it because she let me use it once.
But, uh...well there it is.


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Re: Accomplice syndrome
« Reply #2 on: March 03, 2017, 02:30:02 PM »
Yes but not as black and white as those examples. My step mom lost her mirror once and blamed me for stealing it because she let me use it once.
Your example is really more "black and white" I think. If she actually lost it that implies she forgot she used it after you or "displaced" her fault onto you. In my examples I think the actions were premeditated, maybe unconciously, and there was a tactical build-up to the accomplishment of the plan.

Hmm, but they are all "guilt displacement" of a kind.
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Re: Accomplice syndrome
« Reply #3 on: March 03, 2017, 02:44:59 PM »
My cousin used me once as a getaway driver, once!

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Re: Accomplice syndrome
« Reply #4 on: March 03, 2017, 03:15:50 PM »
My cousin used me once as a getaway driver, once!
You got caught?
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Re: Accomplice syndrome
« Reply #5 on: March 04, 2017, 07:29:00 PM »
Our nature as a social species means this sort of thing is just part of how we live, I'd say.
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Re: Accomplice syndrome
« Reply #6 on: March 04, 2017, 08:45:57 PM »
I generally catch and refuse to play in to that shit, and it's cost me relationships. Mostly in the drinking scenario.

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Re: Accomplice syndrome
« Reply #7 on: March 05, 2017, 12:28:46 AM »
Our nature as a social species means this sort of thing is just part of how we live, I'd say.
That is true, all part of the rich theatre that is human psychology and nature.
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Re: Accomplice syndrome
« Reply #8 on: March 05, 2017, 08:38:10 AM »
I had too much to drink Friday night and I blame Tank because he wasn't there to stop me.  He's an enabler.

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Re: Accomplice syndrome
« Reply #9 on: March 05, 2017, 09:53:05 AM »
I had too much to drink Friday night and I blame Tank because he wasn't there to stop me.  He's an enabler.
I have actually heard that one for real!
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Re: Accomplice syndrome
« Reply #10 on: March 05, 2017, 01:51:17 PM »
I had too much to drink Friday night and I blame Tank because he wasn't there to stop me.  He's an enabler.

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Re: Accomplice syndrome
« Reply #11 on: March 05, 2017, 03:25:49 PM »
I had too much to drink Friday night and I blame Tank because he wasn't there to stop me.  He's an enabler.

Drink and be Tankful.

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Re: Accomplice syndrome
« Reply #12 on: March 06, 2017, 12:20:33 AM »
I had too much to drink Friday night and I blame Tank because he wasn't there to stop me.  He's an enabler.

Drink and be Tankful.

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