Have you ever been used as the accomplice or excuse for another's excesses? Must have been someone's PhD project but can't find it.
Scenario 1: Fred liked to drink but felt a little bit guilty about gojing to the pub alone. He shared his house with John, an easy going type, and nagged, jokingly, until he got John to agree to go out for a drink. Thus it was not entirely his fault that they drank a bit more than was healthy.
Scenario 2: Sue really loved her food but was a bit guilty about her burgening waistline. However, she dropped hints with all her friends about going out for lunch. Then, when they, once or twice a month, suggested lunch she was a willing partner. Lots of friends = lots of lunches. But her bulging middle was their fault of course, she did not want to offend by turning the invites down.
Thought it was an aspect of Eric Berne's "See what you made me do now" in his 1973 book "Games people play"
but it's not quite the same.
Anyone else met this phenomena?