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Re: How Do You Relieve Stress?
« Reply #15 on: February 04, 2017, 09:11:58 AM »
I used to play flyball, but that seems to be adding stress lately. Getting to yell, run, and catch a 65lb Malinois with one arm is somehow cathartic.

If they don't take your arm with them! :lol: I don't know the breed, but they look like really active dogs.

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So basically I just let things fester until breaking, yeah.

It's a terrible thing to do.  :sadnod:

They more or less do.  I was wearing lacrosse gloves when running him up until recently because he'd punch a hole in your hand if he missed. It took me 2 months to learn to counterbalance my weight to catch him.

And yeah. I gotta make some tough life choices here because festering isnt working.

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Re: How Do You Relieve Stress?
« Reply #16 on: February 04, 2017, 09:12:42 AM »
I used to play flyball, but that seems to be adding stress lately. Getting to yell, run, and catch a 65lb Malinois with one arm is somehow cathartic.

If they don't take your arm with them! :lol: I don't know the breed, but they look like really active dogs.

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So basically I just let things fester until breaking, yeah.

It's a terrible thing to do.  :sadnod:

They more or less do.  I was wearing lacrosse gloves when running him up until recently because he'd punch a hole in your hand if he missed. It took me 2 months to learn to counterbalance my weight to catch him. They're basically German Shepherds on crack.

And yeah. I gotta make some tough life choices here because festering isnt working.

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Re: How Do You Relieve Stress?
« Reply #17 on: February 04, 2017, 11:10:48 AM »
The mattress mambo can work wonders.

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Re: How Do You Relieve Stress?
« Reply #18 on: February 04, 2017, 11:40:43 AM »
My first  reaction is to cry. I know.... not helpful at all, but sometimes I can't help it. Then my next step is to sleep. Stress doesn't normally keep me awake, usually all I want to do is become unconscious for a bit. Then I get all motivated to kick the world's ass by getting g lots of stuff done. It's a pretty predictable cycle with me. Although I don't get stressed very often. I'm pretty chill usually.
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Re: How Do You Relieve Stress?
« Reply #19 on: February 04, 2017, 11:42:28 AM »
I poured all my sadness into weight lifting. Vitamin D helps too.

I poured all my...excitement? into meditating. Basically if I'm feeling my environment is getting too fast paced for me and making my thoughts rush as well, then I sit and listen to some calming music or ambient sounds.

My anger seems to be heading toward something constructive in the future.

How's your writing coming along?

It's not really going anywhere, I know how to finish the story but it wouldn't be real. I'm not even sure if I will like the story when I'm done.
But, uh...well there it is.
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Re: How Do You Relieve Stress?
« Reply #20 on: February 04, 2017, 11:45:59 AM »
Have not suffered stress since I had my almost fatal heart attack, puts things into perspective.

But I do not recommend that as a "cure"!!  :sadshake:

My mental condition is triggered by stress. I feel you on that one.

Though very difficult to achieve, for most, the recognition and avoidance of stress "triggers" can help a grest deal. Violent games, computer or otherwise, might help for some but make others worse.

"Contemplative" violence, as with some Eastern martial arts, carried out with the right motive, seems to have helped some find a new place within themselves. But it can be a "side effect" that requires constant "topping up." Perhaps a therapy rather than a cure.

That's interesting. Never heard of "contemplative violence" before. I may have used it before but only in verbal fights.
But, uh...well there it is.
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Re: How Do You Relieve Stress?
« Reply #21 on: February 04, 2017, 12:48:41 PM »
Have not suffered stress since I had my almost fatal heart attack, puts things into perspective.

But I do not recommend that as a "cure"!!  :sadshake:

My mental condition is triggered by stress. I feel you on that one.

Though very difficult to achieve, for most, the recognition and avoidance of stress "triggers" can help a grest deal. Violent games, computer or otherwise, might help for some but make others worse.

"Contemplative" violence, as with some Eastern martial arts, carried out with the right motive, seems to have helped some find a new place within themselves. But it can be a "side effect" that requires constant "topping up." Perhaps a therapy rather than a cure.

That's interesting. Never heard of "contemplative violence" before. I may have used it before but only in verbal fights.

I was thinking about martial arts as an art, not earning it st to be able to beat others up. But you need to find a good, traditional, instructor

In the RAF I joined the judo club whilst in training. At 5ft 3in and a lightweight, with little confidence and a history of being bullied, I started off just wanting to be able to kick-ass a little.Cpl Marcantonio, an inch taller than me  but about the same across the shoulders, had other ideas for us. We did no fighting for the first quarter of each session,

Can't call it meditation in the sense most think of that, more a case of "contemplating" our perception of the moment, our environment, our physical being, what we wanted to achieve in the lesson. The latter moved on from "kick-ass" to achieving the best we were capable of. After a few months I did not want to kick-ass anymore,  was enjoying the balletic/athletic quality, the strategy, the psychology and the sense of success that even a lost fight might give - with a worthy opponent.

Ineresting thing was the captain of the second rugby eleven refused to fight me twice in friendly matches - though he must have been double my weight!

Marcantonio spent every leave he could get going to Japan to advance himself in the art - wonder what happened to him?

There is a lot of myth about the martial arts, 'cept maybe it is not all myth . . .

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Re: How Do You Relieve Stress?
« Reply #22 on: February 04, 2017, 12:53:56 PM »
Have not suffered stress since I had my almost fatal heart attack, puts things into perspective.

But I do not recommend that as a "cure"!!  :sadshake:

My mental condition is triggered by stress. I feel you on that one.

Though very difficult to achieve, for most, the recognition and avoidance of stress "triggers" can help a grest deal. Violent games, computer or otherwise, might help for some but make others worse.

"Contemplative" violence, as with some Eastern martial arts, carried out with the right motive, seems to have helped some find a new place within themselves. But it can be a "side effect" that requires constant "topping up." Perhaps a therapy rather than a cure.

That's interesting. Never heard of "contemplative violence" before. I may have used it before but only in verbal fights.

I was thinking about martial arts as an art, not earning it st to be able to beat others up. But you need to find a good, traditional, instructor

In the RAF I joined the judo club whilst in training. At 5ft 3in and a lightweight, with little confidence and a history of being bullied, I started off just wanting to be able to kick-ass a little.Cpl Marcantonio, an inch taller than me  but about the same across the shoulders, had other ideas for us. We did no fighting for the first quarter of each session,

Can't call it meditation in the sense most think of that, more a case of "contemplating" our perception of the moment, our environment, our physical being, what we wanted to achieve in the lesson. The latter moved on from "kick-ass" to achieving the best we were capable of. After a few months I did not want to kick-ass anymore,  was enjoying the balletic/athletic quality, the strategy, the psychology and the sense of success that even a lost fight might give - with a worthy opponent.

Ineresting thing was the captain of the second rugby eleven refused to fight me twice in friendly matches - though he must have been double my weight!

Marcantonio spent every leave he could get going to Japan to advance himself in the art - wonder what happened to him?

There is a lot of myth about the martial arts, 'cept maybe it is not all myth . . .

One of the few happy memories of my RAF service.

Yeah I had a similar experience with Taekwondo although I couldn't go long because my Dad couldn't pay for it. But as soon as I get this one bill paid off in a few months, I'm signing back up with my old teacher.
But, uh...well there it is.
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Re: How Do You Relieve Stress?
« Reply #23 on: February 04, 2017, 02:21:55 PM »
I'd like to know other people's strategies for relieving stress. Do you exercise? Meditate?  Let it build up inside until you have a full blown meltdown?

I tend to burn out, and it doesn't take much to reach that state these days. It becomes harder to get things done, which only feeds into the cycle.

My advisor has squishy brain shaped toys in his office. I saw those things and felt this incredible urge to get a couple for myself. Since I'm practically always fidgeting with something (one hand on the mouse and another twirling a pen or something while I'm reading), those squishy things look very tempting. :grin: Voodoo dolls would be a close second.

Does anyone know of some interesting ways to de-stress that don't require huge amounts of motivation? What do you do?

I have a gift for you.  I've been working for a while now (still working on it actually, slowly but surely) to start up a consulting business with a focus on occupational health psychology and performance improvement.  One of the services I plan on offering is a workshop on stress management.  As part of the workshop I put together a companion booklet.  Hopefully, it has some good information in it you can use:

Stress Prevention & Mitigation

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Re: How Do You Relieve Stress?
« Reply #24 on: February 04, 2017, 03:03:10 PM »
Lots of ways to relieve stress, depending on the situation;

Exercise on a regular basis
A nice walk in nature
After a rough day at the office, a drink
Prayer/meditation
Hot bath/shower
Sex (less often the older I get)
Watching a movie
Getting on the internet



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Re: How Do You Relieve Stress?
« Reply #25 on: February 04, 2017, 03:50:53 PM »
a drink
Prayer/meditation
Watching a movie
Getting on the internet

I'd say these are both the cause, and solution to all of life's stress.
But, uh...well there it is.
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Re: How Do You Relieve Stress?
« Reply #26 on: February 04, 2017, 06:29:01 PM »
Mostly video games these days. Running too, but I haven't had time to do that lately with firechicklet around, and the cold weather in New England. Hopefully will take that up more in the spring.
When I get really stressed, I shut down. The night of the election was a perfect example..well, after I spent half an hour hitting and breaking things. I was not very talkative at all for about a week, mostly reading the internet and writing and shutting myself in. Firechicklet was just 3 weeks old, so my wife was not happy with me at the time. Don't blame her, but that's how I cope, retreating into myself.
Yoga has helped too, but we haven't found a good place to go since we moved. I should look into that again, admittedly. I've tried mindfulness but haven't been able to stick with it. My former therapist had me download an app called Headspace which was occasionally helpful.
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Re: How Do You Relieve Stress?
« Reply #27 on: February 05, 2017, 05:35:13 AM »
I'd like to know other people's strategies for relieving stress. Do you exercise? Meditate?  Let it build up inside until you have a full blown meltdown?

I tend to burn out, and it doesn't take much to reach that state these days. It becomes harder to get things done, which only feeds into the cycle.

My advisor has squishy brain shaped toys in his office. I saw those things and felt this incredible urge to get a couple for myself. Since I'm practically always fidgeting with something (one hand on the mouse and another twirling a pen or something while I'm reading), those squishy things look very tempting. :grin: Voodoo dolls would be a close second.

Does anyone know of some interesting ways to de-stress that don't require huge amounts of motivation? What do you do?

I have a gift for you.  I've been working for a while now (still working on it actually, slowly but surely) to start up a consulting business with a focus on occupational health psychology and performance improvement.  One of the services I plan on offering is a workshop on stress management.  As part of the workshop I put together a companion booklet.  Hopefully, it has some good information in it you can use:

Stress Prevention & Mitigation

Thank you Squid! I will definitely read that. :smilenod:
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Re: How Do You Relieve Stress?
« Reply #28 on: February 05, 2017, 08:30:31 AM »
I'd like to know other people's strategies for relieving stress. Do you exercise? Meditate?  Let it build up inside until you have a full blown meltdown?

I tend to burn out, and it doesn't take much to reach that state these days. It becomes harder to get things done, which only feeds into the cycle.

My advisor has squishy brain shaped toys in his office. I saw those things and felt this incredible urge to get a couple for myself. Since I'm practically always fidgeting with something (one hand on the mouse and another twirling a pen or something while I'm reading), those squishy things look very tempting. :grin: Voodoo dolls would be a close second.

Does anyone know of some interesting ways to de-stress that don't require huge amounts of motivation? What do you do?

I have a gift for you.  I've been working for a while now (still working on it actually, slowly but surely) to start up a consulting business with a focus on occupational health psychology and performance improvement.  One of the services I plan on offering is a workshop on stress management.  As part of the workshop I put together a companion booklet.  Hopefully, it has some good information in it you can use:

Stress Prevention & Mitigation

Thank you Squid! I will definitely read that. :smilenod:

You're quite welcome!  8)

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Re: How Do You Relieve Stress?
« Reply #29 on: February 07, 2017, 05:06:46 PM »
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