Society is very unforgiving. Blaming the victim is puts their collective conscience at rest, especially when the accused is a saint.
And after all, any woman who dresses provocatively is asking for it. Much like any man who wears a John Lennon shirt is asking to be shot by a crazed gunman hoping to grab the attention of his favorite actress.
I'm not sure why this happens. When I try to tell my story, it usually ends up as "it sounds like you were stalking her" when really it seemed to be the other way around. However, as I get older, I see maybe it was all a misunderstanding.
I could go into detail about what I mean there but it would all be very embarrassing.
However, I have read this article below that may explain some of the attitudes people hold about "rape". https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/evolution-the-self/201206/dominant-or-submissive-paradox-power-in-sexual-relations
Now if you read it, then you will remember the part where it says that woman may "unconsciously" attract men. Now whether it is deliberate or not means nothing to me, but what I'm getting at is that people may, consciously or unconsciously, realize this themselves. And thus when they see and hear the issue, they blame the woman because accepting any other idea challenges their world view, or view of themselves.
Now one thing I think the article doesn't mention is that fantasy is not something people always want to do. One mistake people make is thinking the mind is uniform, when in fact their are many different tunnels and contradictions.