I'd like to know other people's strategies for relieving stress. Do you exercise? Meditate? Let it build up inside until you have a full blown meltdown?
I tend to burn out, and it doesn't take much to reach that state these days. It becomes harder to get things done, which only feeds into the cycle.
My advisor has squishy brain shaped toys in his office. I saw those things and felt this incredible urge to get a couple for myself. Since I'm practically always fidgeting with something (one hand on the mouse and another twirling a pen or something while I'm reading), those squishy things look very tempting. :grin: Voodoo dolls would be a close second.
Does anyone know of some interesting ways to de-stress that don't require huge amounts of motivation? What do you do?
Blistering cardio.
Weight lifting.
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Quote from: No one on February 04, 2017, 12:43:46 AM
Blistering cardio.
Did that, lack both the motivation and time now. It does work, though.
QuoteWeight lifting.
Never tried that. :notsure:
QuoteGrand Theft Auto. (https://www.happyatheistforum.com/forum/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fweb.stardock.net%2Fimages%2Fsmiles%2Fthemes%2Fdigicons%2FThumbs%2520Up.png&hash=e8ea77880ad2978fd09f5791a5436d85008666d2)
I never played any game of that franchise before (I'm going to assume you meant the videogames ;) ), but they do look like they let you let out some steam. ;D
Ooh! Minecraft on creative mode!
I used to play flyball, but that seems to be adding stress lately. Getting to yell, run, and catch a 65lb Malinois with one arm is somehow cathartic.
So basically I just let things fester until breaking, yeah.
Stack and slam wedging a 15 kg lump of clay.
Listening to music.
I poured all my sadness into weight lifting. Vitamin D helps too.
I poured all my...excitement? into meditating. Basically if I'm feeling my environment is getting too fast paced for me and making my thoughts rush as well, then I sit and listen to some calming music or ambient sounds.
My anger seems to be heading toward something constructive in the future.
Have not suffered stress since I had my almost fatal heart attack, puts things into perspective.
But I do not recommend that as a "cure"!! :sadshake:
Quote from: Gloucester on February 04, 2017, 07:03:04 AM
Have not suffered stress since I had my almost fatal heart attack, puts things into perspective.
But I do not recommend that as a "cure"!! :sadshake:
My mental condition is triggered by stress. I feel you on that one.
Quote from: No one on February 04, 2017, 12:43:46 AM
Blistering cardio.
Weight lifting.
Grand Theft Auto. (https://www.happyatheistforum.com/forum/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fweb.stardock.net%2Fimages%2Fsmiles%2Fthemes%2Fdigicons%2FThumbs%2520Up.png&hash=e8ea77880ad2978fd09f5791a5436d85008666d2)
I don't think video games are a good idea, besides their general corrupting effect on users, specifically in regard to stress they are ungood. Your bod gets all het up like it's doing something really active but it's not, chemicals are produced but not used as they would be in physical activity. I'm not being too scientific am I?
Walking is good if there's somewhere safe to do it, the activity has benefit and it's a meditative.
Quote from: Apathy on February 04, 2017, 07:15:42 AM
Quote from: Gloucester on February 04, 2017, 07:03:04 AM
Have not suffered stress since I had my almost fatal heart attack, puts things into perspective.
But I do not recommend that as a "cure"!! :sadshake:
My mental condition is triggered by stress. I feel you on that one.
Though very difficult to achieve, for most, the recognition and avoidance of stress "triggers" can help a grest deal. Violent games, computer or otherwise, might help for some but make others worse.
"Contemplative" violence, as with some Eastern martial arts, carried out with the right motive, seems to have helped some find a new place within themselves. But it can be a "side effect" that requires constant "topping up." Perhaps a therapy rather than a cure.
Quote from: Pasta Chick on February 04, 2017, 04:27:44 AM
I used to play flyball, but that seems to be adding stress lately. Getting to yell, run, and catch a 65lb Malinois with one arm is somehow cathartic.
If they don't take your arm with them! :lol: I don't know the breed, but they look like really active dogs.
QuoteSo basically I just let things fester until breaking, yeah.
It's a terrible thing to do. :sadnod:
Quote from: hermes2015 on February 04, 2017, 04:34:04 AM
Stack and slam wedging a 15 kg lump of clay.
Sure you haven't been doing that to The Grumpy Asmo? :asmo:
:lol:
QuoteListening to music.
That's a good one!
Quote from: Apathy on February 04, 2017, 05:09:16 AM
I poured all my sadness into weight lifting. Vitamin D helps too.
I poured all my...excitement? into meditating. Basically if I'm feeling my environment is getting too fast paced for me and making my thoughts rush as well, then I sit and listen to some calming music or ambient sounds.
My anger seems to be heading toward something constructive in the future.
How's your writing coming along?
Quote from: Gloucester on February 04, 2017, 07:03:04 AM
Have not suffered stress since I had my almost fatal heart attack, puts things into perspective.
But I do not recommend that as a "cure"!! :sadshake:
Yeah, I wouldn't want that for most people! :sadshake:
Was it a change in atitude that allowed you to manage stress better?
Quote from: xSilverPhinx on February 04, 2017, 03:06:56 PM
Quote from: Gloucester on February 04, 2017, 07:03:04 AM
Have not suffered stress since I had my almost fatal heart attack, puts things into perspective.
But I do not recommend that as a "cure"!! :sadshake:
Yeah, I wouldn't want that for most people! :sadshake:
Was it a change in atitude that allowed you to manage stress better?
The full change came over a year or so, but there was an almost immediate relaxation in my attitudes, more acceptance that life is a bitch - and thrn you die!
;)
The shocks from my implant, that saved my life again, gave me another reminder of my mortality. After those I did suffer two fairly common problens - "out-of-the-blue" anxiety attacks, but I learned to cope with them after the second one, and a short lived fear of drifting off to sleep - a sensation too similar to the experience of going into a faint due to reduced blood supply to the brain.
But now, I have learned to comport my life in such a manner so as not to induce stress triggers. But I do have the advantage of not gaving to keep up with work and a boss, no rent or mortgage and an income that well covers my modest needs (and things like the £500 I have to find for water hester repairs). What studying I do is purely for pleasure and my only ambition is to enjoy as many tomorrows as possible.
The latter does mean keeping a gentle eye on what I eat and drink but this also allows for naughty treats now and again.
This does not stop me losing my rag at some things - but I don't let them stress me. I have shruggjng down to a gine art.
Quote from: xSilverPhinx on February 04, 2017, 02:29:26 PM
Quote from: Pasta Chick on February 04, 2017, 04:27:44 AM
I used to play flyball, but that seems to be adding stress lately. Getting to yell, run, and catch a 65lb Malinois with one arm is somehow cathartic.
If they don't take your arm with them! :lol: I don't know the breed, but they look like really active dogs.
QuoteSo basically I just let things fester until breaking, yeah.
It's a terrible thing to do. :sadnod:
They more or less do. I was wearing lacrosse gloves when running him up until recently because he'd punch a hole in your hand if he missed. It took me 2 months to learn to counterbalance my weight to catch him.
And yeah. I gotta make some tough life choices here because festering isnt working.
Quote from: Pasta Chick on February 04, 2017, 04:11:58 PM
Quote from: xSilverPhinx on February 04, 2017, 02:29:26 PM
Quote from: Pasta Chick on February 04, 2017, 04:27:44 AM
I used to play flyball, but that seems to be adding stress lately. Getting to yell, run, and catch a 65lb Malinois with one arm is somehow cathartic.
If they don't take your arm with them! :lol: I don't know the breed, but they look like really active dogs.
QuoteSo basically I just let things fester until breaking, yeah.
It's a terrible thing to do. :sadnod:
They more or less do. I was wearing lacrosse gloves when running him up until recently because he'd punch a hole in your hand if he missed. It took me 2 months to learn to counterbalance my weight to catch him. They're basically German Shepherds on crack.
And yeah. I gotta make some tough life choices here because festering isnt working.
The mattress mambo can work wonders.
My first reaction is to cry. I know.... not helpful at all, but sometimes I can't help it. Then my next step is to sleep. Stress doesn't normally keep me awake, usually all I want to do is become unconscious for a bit. Then I get all motivated to kick the world's ass by getting g lots of stuff done. It's a pretty predictable cycle with me. Although I don't get stressed very often. I'm pretty chill usually.
Quote from: xSilverPhinx on February 04, 2017, 03:04:44 PM
Quote from: Apathy on February 04, 2017, 05:09:16 AM
I poured all my sadness into weight lifting. Vitamin D helps too.
I poured all my...excitement? into meditating. Basically if I'm feeling my environment is getting too fast paced for me and making my thoughts rush as well, then I sit and listen to some calming music or ambient sounds.
My anger seems to be heading toward something constructive in the future.
How's your writing coming along?
It's not really going anywhere, I know how to finish the story but it wouldn't be real. I'm not even sure if I will like the story when I'm done.
Quote from: Gloucester on February 04, 2017, 08:55:33 AM
Quote from: Apathy on February 04, 2017, 07:15:42 AM
Quote from: Gloucester on February 04, 2017, 07:03:04 AM
Have not suffered stress since I had my almost fatal heart attack, puts things into perspective.
But I do not recommend that as a "cure"!! :sadshake:
My mental condition is triggered by stress. I feel you on that one.
Though very difficult to achieve, for most, the recognition and avoidance of stress "triggers" can help a grest deal. Violent games, computer or otherwise, might help for some but make others worse.
"Contemplative" violence, as with some Eastern martial arts, carried out with the right motive, seems to have helped some find a new place within themselves. But it can be a "side effect" that requires constant "topping up." Perhaps a therapy rather than a cure.
That's interesting. Never heard of "contemplative violence" before. I may have used it before but only in verbal fights.
Quote from: Apathy on February 04, 2017, 06:45:59 PM
Quote from: Gloucester on February 04, 2017, 08:55:33 AM
Quote from: Apathy on February 04, 2017, 07:15:42 AM
Quote from: Gloucester on February 04, 2017, 07:03:04 AM
Have not suffered stress since I had my almost fatal heart attack, puts things into perspective.
But I do not recommend that as a "cure"!! :sadshake:
My mental condition is triggered by stress. I feel you on that one.
Though very difficult to achieve, for most, the recognition and avoidance of stress "triggers" can help a grest deal. Violent games, computer or otherwise, might help for some but make others worse.
"Contemplative" violence, as with some Eastern martial arts, carried out with the right motive, seems to have helped some find a new place within themselves. But it can be a "side effect" that requires constant "topping up." Perhaps a therapy rather than a cure.
That's interesting. Never heard of "contemplative violence" before. I may have used it before but only in verbal fights.
I was thinking about martial arts as an art, not earning it st to be able to beat others up. But you need to find a good, traditional, instructor
In the RAF I joined the judo club whilst in training. At 5ft 3in and a lightweight, with little confidence and a history of being bullied, I started off just wanting to be able to kick-ass a little.Cpl Marcantonio, an inch taller than me but about the same across the shoulders, had other ideas for us. We did no fighting for the first quarter of each session,
Can't call it meditation in the sense most think of that, more a case of "contemplating" our perception of the moment, our environment, our physical being, what we wanted to achieve in the lesson. The latter moved on from "kick-ass" to achieving the best we were capable of. After a few months I did not want to kick-ass anymore, was enjoying the balletic/athletic quality, the strategy, the psychology and the sense of success that even a lost fight might give - with a worthy opponent.
Ineresting thing was the captain of the second rugby eleven refused to fight me twice in friendly matches - though he must have been double my weight!
Marcantonio spent every leave he could get going to Japan to advance himself in the art - wonder what happened to him?
There is a lot of myth about the martial arts, 'cept maybe it is not all myth . . .
One of the few happy memories of my RAF service.
Quote from: Gloucester on February 04, 2017, 07:48:41 PM
Quote from: Apathy on February 04, 2017, 06:45:59 PM
Quote from: Gloucester on February 04, 2017, 08:55:33 AM
Quote from: Apathy on February 04, 2017, 07:15:42 AM
Quote from: Gloucester on February 04, 2017, 07:03:04 AM
Have not suffered stress since I had my almost fatal heart attack, puts things into perspective.
But I do not recommend that as a "cure"!! :sadshake:
My mental condition is triggered by stress. I feel you on that one.
Though very difficult to achieve, for most, the recognition and avoidance of stress "triggers" can help a grest deal. Violent games, computer or otherwise, might help for some but make others worse.
"Contemplative" violence, as with some Eastern martial arts, carried out with the right motive, seems to have helped some find a new place within themselves. But it can be a "side effect" that requires constant "topping up." Perhaps a therapy rather than a cure.
That's interesting. Never heard of "contemplative violence" before. I may have used it before but only in verbal fights.
I was thinking about martial arts as an art, not earning it st to be able to beat others up. But you need to find a good, traditional, instructor
In the RAF I joined the judo club whilst in training. At 5ft 3in and a lightweight, with little confidence and a history of being bullied, I started off just wanting to be able to kick-ass a little.Cpl Marcantonio, an inch taller than me but about the same across the shoulders, had other ideas for us. We did no fighting for the first quarter of each session,
Can't call it meditation in the sense most think of that, more a case of "contemplating" our perception of the moment, our environment, our physical being, what we wanted to achieve in the lesson. The latter moved on from "kick-ass" to achieving the best we were capable of. After a few months I did not want to kick-ass anymore, was enjoying the balletic/athletic quality, the strategy, the psychology and the sense of success that even a lost fight might give - with a worthy opponent.
Ineresting thing was the captain of the second rugby eleven refused to fight me twice in friendly matches - though he must have been double my weight!
Marcantonio spent every leave he could get going to Japan to advance himself in the art - wonder what happened to him?
There is a lot of myth about the martial arts, 'cept maybe it is not all myth . . .
One of the few happy memories of my RAF service.
Yeah I had a similar experience with Taekwondo although I couldn't go long because my Dad couldn't pay for it. But as soon as I get this one bill paid off in a few months, I'm signing back up with my old teacher.
Quote from: xSilverPhinx on February 04, 2017, 12:40:09 AM
I'd like to know other people's strategies for relieving stress. Do you exercise? Meditate? Let it build up inside until you have a full blown meltdown?
I tend to burn out, and it doesn't take much to reach that state these days. It becomes harder to get things done, which only feeds into the cycle.
My advisor has squishy brain shaped toys in his office. I saw those things and felt this incredible urge to get a couple for myself. Since I'm practically always fidgeting with something (one hand on the mouse and another twirling a pen or something while I'm reading), those squishy things look very tempting. :grin: Voodoo dolls would be a close second.
Does anyone know of some interesting ways to de-stress that don't require huge amounts of motivation? What do you do?
I have a gift for you. I've been working for a while now (still working on it actually, slowly but surely) to start up a consulting business with a focus on occupational health psychology and performance improvement. One of the services I plan on offering is a workshop on stress management. As part of the workshop I put together a companion booklet. Hopefully, it has some good information in it you can use:
Stress Prevention & Mitigation (https://www.dropbox.com/s/62boe7tj8q4vcdv/Stress%20Prevention%20and%20Mitigation%20Companion%20Book.pdf?dl=0)
Lots of ways to relieve stress, depending on the situation;
Exercise on a regular basis
A nice walk in nature
After a rough day at the office, a drink
Prayer/meditation
Hot bath/shower
Sex (less often the older I get)
Watching a movie
Getting on the internet
Quote from: Ecurb Noselrub on February 04, 2017, 10:03:10 PM
a drink
Prayer/meditation
Watching a movie
Getting on the internet
I'd say these are both the cause, and solution to all of life's stress.
Mostly video games these days. Running too, but I haven't had time to do that lately with firechicklet around, and the cold weather in New England. Hopefully will take that up more in the spring.
When I get really stressed, I shut down. The night of the election was a perfect example..well, after I spent half an hour hitting and breaking things. I was not very talkative at all for about a week, mostly reading the internet and writing and shutting myself in. Firechicklet was just 3 weeks old, so my wife was not happy with me at the time. Don't blame her, but that's how I cope, retreating into myself.
Yoga has helped too, but we haven't found a good place to go since we moved. I should look into that again, admittedly. I've tried mindfulness but haven't been able to stick with it. My former therapist had me download an app called Headspace which was occasionally helpful.
Quote from: solidsquid on February 04, 2017, 09:21:55 PM
Quote from: xSilverPhinx on February 04, 2017, 12:40:09 AM
I'd like to know other people's strategies for relieving stress. Do you exercise? Meditate? Let it build up inside until you have a full blown meltdown?
I tend to burn out, and it doesn't take much to reach that state these days. It becomes harder to get things done, which only feeds into the cycle.
My advisor has squishy brain shaped toys in his office. I saw those things and felt this incredible urge to get a couple for myself. Since I'm practically always fidgeting with something (one hand on the mouse and another twirling a pen or something while I'm reading), those squishy things look very tempting. :grin: Voodoo dolls would be a close second.
Does anyone know of some interesting ways to de-stress that don't require huge amounts of motivation? What do you do?
I have a gift for you. I've been working for a while now (still working on it actually, slowly but surely) to start up a consulting business with a focus on occupational health psychology and performance improvement. One of the services I plan on offering is a workshop on stress management. As part of the workshop I put together a companion booklet. Hopefully, it has some good information in it you can use:
Stress Prevention & Mitigation (https://www.dropbox.com/s/62boe7tj8q4vcdv/Stress%20Prevention%20and%20Mitigation%20Companion%20Book.pdf?dl=0)
Thank you Squid! I will definitely read that. :smilenod:
Quote from: xSilverPhinx on February 05, 2017, 12:35:13 PM
Quote from: solidsquid on February 04, 2017, 09:21:55 PM
Quote from: xSilverPhinx on February 04, 2017, 12:40:09 AM
I'd like to know other people's strategies for relieving stress. Do you exercise? Meditate? Let it build up inside until you have a full blown meltdown?
I tend to burn out, and it doesn't take much to reach that state these days. It becomes harder to get things done, which only feeds into the cycle.
My advisor has squishy brain shaped toys in his office. I saw those things and felt this incredible urge to get a couple for myself. Since I'm practically always fidgeting with something (one hand on the mouse and another twirling a pen or something while I'm reading), those squishy things look very tempting. :grin: Voodoo dolls would be a close second.
Does anyone know of some interesting ways to de-stress that don't require huge amounts of motivation? What do you do?
I have a gift for you. I've been working for a while now (still working on it actually, slowly but surely) to start up a consulting business with a focus on occupational health psychology and performance improvement. One of the services I plan on offering is a workshop on stress management. As part of the workshop I put together a companion booklet. Hopefully, it has some good information in it you can use:
Stress Prevention & Mitigation (https://www.dropbox.com/s/62boe7tj8q4vcdv/Stress%20Prevention%20and%20Mitigation%20Companion%20Book.pdf?dl=0)
Thank you Squid! I will definitely read that. :smilenod:
You're quite welcome! 8)
Watch Bob Ross paint happy little trees. If Neal Young is the godfather of grunge and James Brown is the godfather of funk then Bob Ross is the godfather of ASMR.
If that don't work for ya, there's always masturbation. ;)
Oh, i always loved Bob Ross. It's his voice. It does fill me with a sweet, old-fashioned peace. The feeling of childhood Saturday afternoons, warm and sunny with dust floating around in the air.....
And Mr. B, I must thank you for posting this video, I played it and my kids watched in fascination as the painting came to life. They kept laughing and exclaiming how they could TOTALLY do this! We may have a new thing started around my house. ;D
Yup, we introduced our kids to him last week. They loved it.
I preferred the artist who originally taught the technique, Bill Alexander. While some may find Ross to be calming, I always thought there was an element of unintentional humor in Alexander's shows.
Quote from: solidsquid on February 05, 2017, 03:30:31 PM
Quote from: xSilverPhinx on February 05, 2017, 12:35:13 PM
Quote from: solidsquid on February 04, 2017, 09:21:55 PM
Quote from: xSilverPhinx on February 04, 2017, 12:40:09 AM
I'd like to know other people's strategies for relieving stress. Do you exercise? Meditate? Let it build up inside until you have a full blown meltdown?
I tend to burn out, and it doesn't take much to reach that state these days. It becomes harder to get things done, which only feeds into the cycle.
My advisor has squishy brain shaped toys in his office. I saw those things and felt this incredible urge to get a couple for myself. Since I'm practically always fidgeting with something (one hand on the mouse and another twirling a pen or something while I'm reading), those squishy things look very tempting. :grin: Voodoo dolls would be a close second.
Does anyone know of some interesting ways to de-stress that don't require huge amounts of motivation? What do you do?
I have a gift for you. I've been working for a while now (still working on it actually, slowly but surely) to start up a consulting business with a focus on occupational health psychology and performance improvement. One of the services I plan on offering is a workshop on stress management. As part of the workshop I put together a companion booklet. Hopefully, it has some good information in it you can use:
Stress Prevention & Mitigation (https://www.dropbox.com/s/62boe7tj8q4vcdv/Stress%20Prevention%20and%20Mitigation%20Companion%20Book.pdf?dl=0)
Thank you Squid! I will definitely read that. :smilenod:
You're quite welcome! 8)
I like your booklet, especially the part on stress prevention (which is probably where I have the most problems). :thumbsup: Now I just need to put some of it into practice! :smilenod:
I don't know, I just can't help feeling frustrated after watching part of those painting videos! :twitch:
Quote from: xSilverPhinx on February 08, 2017, 10:28:35 PM
Quote from: solidsquid on February 05, 2017, 03:30:31 PM
Quote from: xSilverPhinx on February 05, 2017, 12:35:13 PM
Quote from: solidsquid on February 04, 2017, 09:21:55 PM
Quote from: xSilverPhinx on February 04, 2017, 12:40:09 AM
I'd like to know other people's strategies for relieving stress. Do you exercise? Meditate? Let it build up inside until you have a full blown meltdown?
I tend to burn out, and it doesn't take much to reach that state these days. It becomes harder to get things done, which only feeds into the cycle.
My advisor has squishy brain shaped toys in his office. I saw those things and felt this incredible urge to get a couple for myself. Since I'm practically always fidgeting with something (one hand on the mouse and another twirling a pen or something while I'm reading), those squishy things look very tempting. :grin: Voodoo dolls would be a close second.
Does anyone know of some interesting ways to de-stress that don't require huge amounts of motivation? What do you do?
I have a gift for you. I've been working for a while now (still working on it actually, slowly but surely) to start up a consulting business with a focus on occupational health psychology and performance improvement. One of the services I plan on offering is a workshop on stress management. As part of the workshop I put together a companion booklet. Hopefully, it has some good information in it you can use:
Stress Prevention & Mitigation (https://www.dropbox.com/s/62boe7tj8q4vcdv/Stress%20Prevention%20and%20Mitigation%20Companion%20Book.pdf?dl=0)
Thank you Squid! I will definitely read that. :smilenod:
You're quite welcome! 8)
I like your booklet, especially the part on stress prevention (which is probably where I have the most problems). :thumbsup: Now I just need to put some of it into practice! :smilenod:
I'm glad you found it useful :thumbsup: