Start Dating someone religious?

[MariaEvri]

I have religious friends ad if they ever mention god/religion I find myself grinding my teeth. I cant imagine being with one all day long

[Parsifal]

An ex girlfriend of mine became religious during our relationship.  It ended, badly, three months later.  Maybe this was only my experience, but I'm not sure how any atheist/religiot relationship can work.

I will forever heed the warning of Marge Simpson to Homer in the Simpsons season 4 episode 3 (Homer the Heritic).

Don't try to come between my God and my man because you just can't win!

[PoopShoot]

My wife is a deist.  We have an agreement not to hold each others beliefs against them.

[not your typical...]

I quit it 2 years ago,

I can only date other atheists.  and I don't have anything against other races or anything, but by only dating atheist. I can't have my black women anymore.

they're allllllllllll christians. and i'm in the south so it's "those" christians ya know?

Try dating a northern city girl. I know I can vouch for us when I say we will blow your mind. Most of my family is from the south so I know exactly what you mean when you say "those" Christians.  But don't fret, you can still have your black women, you just have to know where to find them.

[unholy1971]

If I dated a lady and leared she was religious, this would be a dealbreaker.

[Sweetdeath]

If I dated a lady and leared she was religious, this would be a dealbreaker.

Same here. There's just no way I can deal with that crap.

[Sandra Craft]

If I dated a lady and leared she was religious, this would be a dealbreaker.

Same here. There's just no way I can deal with that crap.

My girlfriend is religious, in a fairly liberal way.  It's not a problem.

[Sweetdeath]

If I dated a lady and leared she was religious, this would be a dealbreaker.

Same here. There's just no way I can deal with that crap.

My girlfriend is religious, in a fairly liberal way.  It's not a problem.

How do you  deal with it? o_o

[Traveler]

...by only dating atheist. I can't have my black women anymore.

they're allllllllllll christians. and i'm in the south so it's "those" christians ya know?

No they're not. I was looking through the freedom from religion banners and there were a lot of black women (and men) in there. You might just have to move out of the south.

As for the OP ... definately talk about all the difficult issues first. I know that I couldn't marry a man who'd vote for Sarah Palin or one of her ilk. Someone that radically to the right would drive me stark raving mad.

[Sandra Craft]

If I dated a lady and leared she was religious, this would be a dealbreaker.

Same here. There's just no way I can deal with that crap.

My girlfriend is religious, in a fairly liberal way.  It's not a problem.

How do you  deal with it? o_o

Not really anything to deal with.  She doesn't care that I don't believe in a personal god and I don't care that she does -- it gives her comfort and doesn't make her do anything terrible so it's fine with me.  I like getting her take on religious issues, or issues that have a religious side, such as forgiveness, and she loves hearing about this forum.  Other than that, the subject of religion doesn't come up much between us.

[DeterminedJuliet]

I was still religious-ish when I first met my husband. Actually, he was the first openly atheist person that I'd ever met in real life. When he told me he was an atheist, my first response was "But you're so nice!" ( totally cringe-worthy, right?).

But he was willing to give me the benefit of the doubt, and never really pushed the issue. After going through university and continuing to use my brain, I came around, eventually, on my own.

So never say never 

[Crow]

I would find it strange and likely start many arguments or heated discussions but never an impossibility.

I have two friends that are religious the rest either couldn't give a damn or are atheist, one of my closets friends is religious and we are close enough to ridicule each others beliefs without it being a problem, its actually fun due to the uniqueness of his beliefs as he comes from a very different background faith wise (his dad Rastafarian, mum Wicca, step dad staunch Christian from a Muslim upbringing) to most people I have met, but at least he admits that it is his own made-up beliefs and he doesn't mind them being ridiculed, that type of religious I can easily cope with.

I have met many a girl that claim that they are very *insert random faith* and that they live their life by those teachings, then a few hours later or have previously done something with myself or friends of mine that is not according to that religion, with the catholic ones insisting on using something that is against their churches beliefs. Sometimes it just seems like it is something people want to be associated with but don't actually practice any of the preachings.

[Stevil]

I just foresee problems down the road, especially in election years.

Also I worry about how my parents will accept her and how I will be received by her parents

And probably the most important issue, I need to decide if I have any loss of respect for her because she believes in God and if I can live with that

My wife and myself haven't voted for the same party as each other since we got together. It is a non issue for us. Although we both tend toward the right, capitalism rather than socialism. We respect each other's opinions and each other. We have lived different lives and hence are different people with different opinions. Together we make a great team.

Her parents are Chinese, they speak Cantonese most of the time, rarely choosing to speak English, so I hardly have a relationship with them. Open communication is important to them and their relationship with their daughter, trying to navigate through English is too hard and impedes this relationship. Although I get bored on our visits, I don't feel it is my place to change them or impede their family relationships.
She doesn't get on well with my parents, this causes many issues, much high tension and the odd emotionally charged explosive argument. I am stuck in the middle, it is hard to convince her to let my parents visit to see us and our children, it is extremely hard to convince her to visit my parents. She is making an effort but it it emotionally difficult for her.
But we don't live with her or my parents, we visit them once in a while, we live our own lives and love each other very much, we don't expect the in-laws to be our friends, they are the support group of our partners.

There are many reasons why a person believes in god/s. This is not a reflection on their intelligence, they could have been indoctrinated from an early age or have some emotional history that has lead them down this path. For the most part Atheists and Theists are similar, most of us don't go around stealing, murdering, raping or pillaging. My wife has some quirks and no doubt so do I, these should provide some amusement rather than irreconcilable differences.

I would see the biggest risks are if she tries to evangalise you and if she tries to indoctrinate your children at an age before they are capable of deciding for themselves what is true of false. If I were in this situation I would discuss and agree on this before marrying a woman.

[Ali]

I *think* I could date someone who was a theist as long as they were respectful and didn't try to push me towards religion.  I would not worry about what my parents thought, as I would expect them to accept anyone that I cared about.

My husband could NOT date a theist.  He just couldn't.  He gets too "eye-roll-y" about any sort of religious talk - it would drive him nuts.

So I guess my answer is, it depends on your personality, and also how important the relationship is to you, and whether you can both be respectful of each other.

[Wessik]

Peaceful Coexistence is good.